Having been in an abusive relationship, I held on to the notion that my hubby would change, which of course he didn't. "They are only raised now in the context of a divorce filing, which leads me to believe they lack any credibility and are filed only to pull on the emotional strings of the judge." Obviously a comment from an outsider looking in, never having been in the same predicament themself. More than likely she is bringing them up now to ensure custody of her children. She has the safety of her children to bear in mind. If she is not their to watch over them when with their father, she needs to ensure they are protected. I never once called the police, but nearing the end of our relationship as I was preparing to leave him, I began to make records of the incidents. Photos of injuries resulting from assaults, voice recordings of him admitting to abusing me and even apologizing for it, etc... I had to make sure all my ducks were in a row before even thinking of leaving because leaving is the most dangerous part where an abusive spouse is concerned. Reaching a point when enough is enough, coming to the conscious realization that he will never change, putting in 10 years of marriage to a guy who abuses her and sleeps around on her, I say good for you, honey! It takes alot of courage to leave. Leaving is uncomfortable, new and uncertain and I wish her the best of luck to her and her children. I am really ticked off at the attitudes women face towards domestic violence. This is why women do not say anything. The victim gets further victimized.




