None of you seem to remember that Brad's mother and Brad said he sees things more in black and white. There were no gray areas for Brad. So when he felt like he was falling in love with both women, then in his mind, that wasn't possible, therefore he couldn't truly be in love with either of them.
I think Brad had extreme feelings for both women, but felt like if he couldn't feel absolutely sure in one direction more than the other, then he wasn't truly in love at all and couldn't ruin either of their lives by making a commentment. He was very much torn like Jason was. You could see how he struggled at the end with even saying it. It was tearing him up.
Everyone thinks you can only be in love with one person. That there is only one person in the whole world that can be that one true love, but that isn't true. Just like you can love a brother or sister more or differently than another, you can love more than one man or woman in different ways for different reasons. Or you can love 10 characteristics of one person and 10 characteristics of another person and not love either any less or any more than the other....so short of polygamy, who do you choose? Polygamy is illegal and would make them both mad and not choosing either one makes them both mad....but what would you do? If you felt equally or as strongly about two people, do you not choose both or do you choose one and disappoint them later?
It's easy for people to judge someone else's actions but what would you do? And no, I haven't been in that position, but I can understand it. Something a lot of people are lacking these days....understanding instead of judgement especially when they aren't the person that has to live with the consequences.




