Sandra & Jesse: What Went Wrong
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Sandra Bullock fans were shocked when tattoo model Michelle McGee claimed she had an 11-month fling with the Oscar winner's husband Jesse James. (Bullock, 45 has not commented on McGee's allegations, but on Thursday, reports surfaced that she has moved out of the family's Southern California home. James, 40, has not responded to specific claims against him, but he has apologized.)
So what went wrong?
In 2004, when Bullock was first linked to James, fans couldn't get over what an odd couple the two made: She, the girl-next-door star of such classic comedies as Miss Congeniality and Two Weeks Notice; he, the tattooed bad boy star of Discovery Channel's Monster Garage.
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If James strayed, it could have been because "he always felt like a second-class citizen," Beverly Hills-based Dr. Carole Lieberman tells UsMagazine.com. "Maybe he felt like he never was able to live up to her level."
Given the recent critical accolades Bullock garnered for The Blind Side -- including an Oscar -- "he might really think she is too good for him," she says.
Interestingly, the day after the Oscars, Bullock joked to Oprah Winfrey that she had to coax James to attend awards shows with her. "This is a man who works 12 hours a day, manual labor," she told Winfrey. "I have to pull him out of bed ... and say, 'Can you try on the Dolce suit?' He's like, 'Do I have to?' I'm like: 'Yes. I don't want you to look like a bad waiter.'"
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He could have had the fling "for sex and to feel like the big man because Sandra didn't make him feel big enough," Lieberman goes on.
Reportedly, James' affair began when Bullock was away shooting The Blind Side. "I think he felt abandoned when she went to go on location to shoot," Lieberman says. "He wanted someone to make him feel wanted."
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But Cooper Lawrence, a relationship and psychology expert and author of The Cult of Celebrity, says James' alleged infidelity could be explained by his wild past: He was once wed to porn star Janine Lindemulder (with whom he and Bullock recently engaged in a nasty custody battle over 5-year-old daughter Sunny).
James is "a guy who likes sports cars and strippers and tattoo models," Lawrence tells Us. "He's just going back to who he really is. I don't think he was trying to hurt Sandra intentionally. He is just somebody who acts on impulse and does what he wants in the moment. He is not like Tiger Woods who let fame get to him."
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Could Bullock and James ever get past their marital woes?
No, says Lawrence, who tells Us that Bullock made "a terrible mistake" wedding James.
Psychotherapist Rhonda Findling, author of Don’t Call that Man!: A Survival Guide to Letting Go, says James clearly "has problems and needs to get over his own issues of envy toward her. This guy needs treatment. He needs to be in therapy."
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188I guess he just gone back to his roots.
how the hell could he sleep with that freak,tattooed head,wtf,sandra is so hot,oh well his loss.
From a commenter below: "A TRAILER TRASH EAT DOG S.H.I.T GO FIND YOUR OWN MAN AND QUIT STEALING OTHER WOMANS HUSBANDS YOU DUMB A.S.S W.H.O.R.E !" Sandra should have took that advice when she started her affair with JJ when his former wife Janine was 7 months pregnant. The man is a scumbag, period. Don't blame the tattoo model, Sandra, or Janine. Jesse James is the one who cheated and was in affairs with all of the above. How sad for little Sunny.
Dude what where your thinking??? Apparently you do not take your marriage seriously.... Another Tiger Woods (too much money, too much fame, too little a brain). Good Luck with this one....Dumb Ass!
He dressed up as the "Vanilla Gorilla" for halloween one year as they gave out treats in NYC. hmmmmm might be his own chosen moniker ??
These "experts" opinions are ridiculous sound bites. CLEARLY they were in love but he cheated. Sometimes people with the best intentions give in to temptation. Nonetheless she should NEVER FORGIVE HIM...EVER!!!!!!!!! She is such a doll. Much love Sandra. JJ - hope she gives you the heave ho.
I admire Sandra Bullock and liked JJ so hoped it was real and true for both of them. The greatest outrage is if he risked his wife's life by having unprotected sex. If so, JJ should be shown the door, permanently.
What is the insane world we live in? Why do these experts attempt to justify his disgusting behavior?! Any man who cheats has no excuse - you can't be man enough to keep it together with your wife - then get divorced. Be a real man with one woman. These experts should be as ashamed of themselves as he should be - great - thanks to "experts" he can be a victim - how pathetic.
Heads Up Sandra We Love You, People need to learn when it's between a man and wife STFUp
Why did you compare Jesse to Tiger and say he's not like him? Why couldn't you just as well said he's not like other White Men Who are celebs,That got caught? one woman wasn't enought he needed more. how do you know it was only one. TAKE THIS ITCH OFF THE PAYROL!!!
No one cares about Tony and Kate. She is a person who gained public attention for her ability to reproduce in large numbers. Let's get over it.
Yea i'll tell you what went wrong in there short marriage THIS STUPID WHITE TRASH IS WHAT WENT WRONG everything was fine intil "BOMBSHELL" came along and ruined it HOO.KER !!!
A TRAILER TRASH EAT DOG S.H.I.T GO FIND YOUR OWN MAN AND QUIT STEALING OTHER WOMANS HUSBANDS YOU DUMB A.S.S W.H.O.R.E !
I wonder if Jesse realizes that his hot mess was born with a weenie peenie? Ah, the wonders doctors can do these days with the change...
I feel so awful for Sandra. This is as bad as it gets. The timing even makes it worse. She needs to know that she has a lot of fan support behind her. We are on her side, and would help her anyway we can.
Jesse, what goes around comes around,,, you will regret it!!!
The trashy woman that Jesse had an affair with looks like a walking advertisement for STD's. I can't beleive she has children that look at her and call her mother. EWWW!! Stay strong Sandra. You are an amazing woman who has more class than that tramp will ever be or have.
That tattoo chick was way hotter than Sandra Bullock. I would have nailed her too.
I love these experts who have never either Sandra or Jesse but have concluded, with absolute certainty, what "issues" Jesse has and that he needs therapy. Maybe, just maybe, he wanted to get tipped over and this trailer tag billboard was available. Does that make it right? Absolutely not, but until he submits to consultation, let's not try and diagnose what's wrong with him other than he can't keep his Johnson in his pants.
> She, the girl-next-door star of such > classic comedies as Miss Congeniality > and Two Weeks Notice Please! It Happened One Night, Annie Hall, Being There, Some Like It Hot, are classic comedies. Sondra Bullock has stared in nothing but a string of forgettable cookie-cutter films for people who have to move their lips to read.