Jill Zarin, who dined with Jon Gosselin in the Hamptons last week, tells Usmagzine.com she feels for the beleaguered reality star.

"He's got a lot of figuring out to do," she said Monday at Animal Fair's 10th Annual Paws For Style in NYC.

But she said the Ed Hardy-loving father of eight - who has been linked to two different girls in two weeks - is not having a mid-life crisis.

"He's only 32, she told Us. "He can't be having a mid-life crisis!"

At her July 22 dinner with Gosselin (and Michael Lohan and Star tabloid reporter Kate Major), Zarin said she told Gosselin "a lot. He spoke to me privately, so I'm going to respect that, but I will say that I did give him the third degree. I wanted to know everything about what it was like to raise eight kids. I wanted to know what it was like when he came home. I wanted to know how many diapers he changed. Who wants to take a guess? 12,000! That's a good item."

After meeting Gosselin, "I would never have thought he had 8 kids," she noted. "He was like a young, fun, loving-life kind of guy who happens to have eight kids that he's got to take care of."

Asked if she believes he's been intimate with Major, Zarin replied, "No." As for 22-year-old Hailey Glassman? "That I don't know," she said. "And I don't care."