Patti Stanger Tells Gays: "I've Tried to Curb You People"
Tough love or total bigotry?
Millionaire Matchmaker's Patti Stanger appears to be practicing the latter. On Sunday night's premiere of Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen on Bravo, Stanger made sweeping, stereotypical generalizations about gay men looking for love.
When a caller named Dustin asked the reality star what she thought about "open relationships," she told him: "In the gay world, there's always going to be open [relationships]. Are you straight or gay?"
He answered gay, to which she said: "Ok, well then you're ok. There's Grindr [the online site that connects gay/bisexual men in the same area] for you. Go on Grindr. You'll have a great time."
Cohen, 43, looked appalled at Stanger's remarks. "Hold on," he said. "So wait, the gays can have open relationships?" (Stanger's dating policy across the board calls for monogamous relationships only, but this apparently only applies to heterosexual couples.)
"There's no curbing the gay," Stanger snapped. "I've tried to curb you people and you just don't [change]. I've decided to throw in the towel and just say, 'Do what you want. But when you find the right person, you will know.'"
When Cohen told Stanger, "I am a gay and I'm down for the monogamy," she burst out laughing in his face and asked, "When was the last time you had a [serious] boyfriend?" He answered that it'd been six years, and then became "uncomfortable" and moved the conversation along.
When Tyler, a self-proclaimed "gay man from Los Angeles" Skyped in to ask a question about finding "a long-term relationship" and whether he'd have luck outside of the city, Stanger, 50, gave some more offensive advice.
"First of all, you're very handsome. I thought you were straight," she said. "That's a compliment!" (Cohen cocked his head quizzically and made a disgusted face at Stanger's seemingly bigoted remark.)
"Why is being straight a compliment?" he asked.
"Because he's not queeny," Stanger said. "Like you want a queen. Alright, I don't think so."
Stanger tweeted Monday: "It's true. L.A. guys [are] toughest nuts to crack to monogamy," then added: "Attention male gays: I support you and my comment on [Watch What Happens Live] was to an L.A. guy who can't find commitment."
Following intense criticsm, Stanger issued a statement to Us Weekly Monday: "I am so sorry. I did not mean to offend anyone with my comments last night on Watch What Happens Live."
A Bravo spokesperson added that the network "regrets the comments expressed by Patti Stanger on Watch What Happens Live last night. Her comments are not representative of the network's beliefs and opinions. We apologize for the offense it caused."
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