My 3 year old and I live in Japan, and his hair is blue. He is madly in love with Thomas and the color blue. Many children at his Japanese school dye their hair blue too. It has nothing to do with being "rockers" or "rebels" or setting any kind of statement, it is completely normal. I honestly dont see the difference between blue hair and fake tattoo's. I am sure you have let your children sport a disney tattoo at least once?! 3-5 year olds like them because they are favorite charactors, just like they like to sport their favorite color in their hair.

I think Brad & Angelina probably give as much rein as is healthily possible to their children. I betcha maddox wanted his hair that way - and incidently I think it looks abfab.

I think some of the people on this board need to remove the stick from their sphincter. I worked in an elementary school for 3 years, kids always had goofy hairstyles and outfits. It's part of being a kid. The people who keep saying "children should be told no occasionally" lighten up. How do you know blue hair wasn't the lesser of two evils? I went to school with a kid that had a different colored mohawk for each season. (During Christmas it was green with tiny Christmas lights woven through it) The teachers and students both looked forward to seeing what creativity he had come up with. He was also one of the smartest, nicest kids you'd ever meet. I was proud to call him a friend. Nobody ever laughed at him or made fun of him. It's sad that adults are the ones being judgemental to a child. Other children LIKE seeing their friends do fun stuff. Relax!!! Maybe you should loosen up and dye your hair blue!

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So yes, I guess we are rejects. Many of my eldest son's peers are impregnating girls, experimenting with drugs, destroying property, engaging in graffiti, smoking cigarettes and dropping out of school to become slackers. How sad that we don't fit in with all of the good, normal families in our neighborhood. I sure do wish I could be like the professionally dressed business woman down the street from me...the one who pays more attention to her appearances with the neighbors than she pays to her kids. Perhaps I could be like the hard working alcoholic man down the street from me? He sure dresses normally, so he must be a great parent, despite the fact that his son, who is also 15, was just arrested for selling drugs to other kids.

Really folks...stop and think about the ridiculous things that you are saying, and really, above all else, stop to think about how your prejudices, snide comments, and overall lousy attitudes might impact your children. All children are sponges, and they absolutely absorb every nuance of their parents' personalities, including whatever narrow, hateful views they spout off about.

-From a "freaky" goth mom

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So yes, I guess we are rejects. Many of my eldest son's peers are impregnating girls, experimenting with drugs, destroying property, engaging in graffiti, smoking cigarettes and dropping out of school to become slackers. How sad that we don't fit in with all of the good, normal families in our neighborhood. I sure do wish I could be like the professionally dressed business woman down the street from me...the one who pays more attention to her appearances with the neighbors than she pays to her kids. Perhaps I could be like the hard working alcoholic man down the street from me? He sure dresses normally, so he must be a great parent, despite the fact that his son, who is also 15, was just arrested for selling drugs to other kids.

Really folks...stop and think about the ridiculous things that you are saying, and really, above all else, stop to think about how your prejudices, snide comments, and overall lousy attitudes might impact your children. All children are sponges, and they absolutely absorb every nuance of their parents' personalities, including whatever narrow, hateful views they spout off about.

-From a "freaky" goth mom

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So yes, I guess we are rejects. Many of my eldest son's peers are impregnating girls, experimenting with drugs, destroying property, engaging in graffiti, smoking cigarettes and dropping out of school to become slackers. How sad that we don't fit in with all of the good, normal families in our neighborhood. I sure do wish I could be like the professionally dressed business woman down the street from me...the one who pays more attention to her appearances with the neighbors than she pays to her kids. Perhaps I could be like the hard working alcoholic man down the street from me? He sure dresses normally, so he must be a great parent, despite the fact that his son, who is also 15, was just arrested for selling drugs to other kids.

Really folks...stop and think about the ridiculous things that you are saying, and really, above all else, stop to think about how your prejudices, snide comments, and overall lousy attitudes might impact your children. All children are sponges, and they absolutely absorb every nuance of their parents' personalities, including whatever narrow, hateful views they spout off about.

-From a "freaky" goth mom

relax, all kids experiment with things and hair color is no different. curious children with a sliver of blue hair dye (persumably wash out) isnt breaking news and isnt going to make you a bad parent.

surely a 7 year old with a head of blue hair aloud to run riot or a malnurioushed or neglected child would make you a bad parent.

Children need boundaries, limits, and structure. Kids need to be told "no" on occasion. I think parents make a mistake when they give a child too much freedom and/or feel that limits might "stifle their creativity." In my opinion, parents attempting to befriend and be a peer to their children are making a mistake. When I hear parents say: “it’s no big deal” or “he really wanted to do it” or “I can’t make her do that.” I cringe because families need parents at the top of the hierarchy and followed by children underneath the parents. Pitt may have been kidding around in the People Interview when he said "we all raise each other" but that comment got my attention. Children are wonderful and the best part of life, by they need their parents to be parents and should not be used to me the parent's emotional needs and/or to make up for his parent’s lack of an ideal childhood.

yes i would dye my kids hair blue and i have done so
and its been red, green and also yellow. its hair it
grows its fun for them. it doesnt turn them into anything
but an individual

As, the mother of a teenager who has had, purple, blue and pink hair at one time or another, I see nothing wrong with it. Yes, we get looks a comments directed at us, as if we were from some undiscovered planet, but these serve to make my son stronger. If my son has good grades, is a good person, respectful to others and self then there is nothing wrong with a little harmless self expression. All too soon children will have to conform to society as in the workplace, etc., so while he is young he can express himself with color if he so desires. This also teaches my son not to judge anyone on appearances alone, since he is the first to understand what it feels like. Having different hair, clothes, etc. doesn't make you a serial killer, drug user, alcoholic, truent, a dicipline problem or have a record of arrest. It is how you raise the children that matter, not what they look like!!

I understand that everyone has opinions and they have every right to do so . but what i don't understand is when did someones hair make them who they are? To those of you who have criticized parents parenting skills..do you know how these people run their households? Probably not but still your opinion. But to those of you who have called these kids freeks, and ignorant, and other harsh names, SHAME ON YOU. You wouldn't want someone speaking about your child like that(my opinion). most kids these days have to grow up to fast...let them be kids!

3:29 AM Anonymous Says:

Really ridiculous comments in here. I'm just shaking my head at the stupidity of it. It's non-toxic spray-on haircolor, I'm sure. What's the big deal? Allowing a child to exercise some control over their appearance is not bad parenting. It's being smart enough to know which battles are worth putting your foot down over, and which are so trivial that it costs you nothing to allow. Pick the feuds with your kids wisely, and you may never need to fight the really BIG ones....the ones further down the road that really matter.

I couldn't agree with you more. If all me kid wants to do is color his or her hair then what is so wrong with that?!! There are alot more things my kids could choose to do in this world then color their hair!!!!!

Really ridiculous comments in here. I'm just shaking my head at the stupidity of it. It's non-toxic spray-on haircolor, I'm sure. What's the big deal? Allowing a child to exercise some control over their appearance is not bad parenting. It's being smart enough to know which battles are worth putting your foot down over, and which are so trivial that it costs you nothing to allow. Pick the feuds with your kids wisely, and you may never need to fight the really BIG ones....the ones further down the road that really matter.

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And if he didn't get magenta hair, gawd, would he have thrown himself down and kicked his feet, you are the boss, not a 3 year old. If he wants a car at 12, you getting him one. He looked the fool, and if people saw him, I know they thought that behind your back. Would his life have been ruined if you didn't give in to a 3 year olds whining.

come on...it's just some hair spray. My son wanted to be stylo sooo much (he's 3+) and we did something like that with spray on hair color in magenta. it'll go away after washes...let them have more fun! just becos u don't like it does not mean your life is better.