When Us Weekly asked Julie Bowen to name a celebrity mom she admires, the Modern Family actress drew a blank.
“I usually have a good answer to this, but I can’t think of anybody,” the 47-year-old told Us at the Tiny Prints Baby2Baby Holiday Wrapping Party in L.A. on Wednesday, November 29. She then changed the topic to Tori Spelling, who has five kids.
“I don’t know if I look up to her or I’m just confused,” Bowen confessed to Us. “I look up to anyone who clearly loves being a mom because it’s really hard. It’s hard to be a mom. It’s hard to be a dad. It’s exhausting and every day I feel like I’m three steps forward and one step back. I apologize a lot.”
Bowen, who shares Oliver, 10, and twins John and Gustav, 8, with her software developer husband Scott Phillips, admitted she makes a lot of mistakes. “Anybody who pretends that they’re a perfect parent, I automatically resent. I’m like, ‘No, you’re not. None of of us are. We’re all guessing and doing our very, very best.’”
The two-time Emmy winner was equally candid about her 13-year marriage. “Butting heads is part of life. I’ve spent a lot of time in excellent therapy and butting heads is part of life,” she told Us. In fact, Bowen thinks it’s healthy for her sons to see her and Phillips hash things out. “Being perfect is not a good role model for your children,” she said. “They need to see that there are arguments and they need to see how those get resolved.”
Baby2Baby is a nonprofit organization that provides low-come children with diapers, clothing and basic necessities. Tiny Prints also unveiled its exclusive charitable holiday card collection, with 25% of proceeds going to Baby2Baby.