Taylor Swift’s Relationships With Her Exes: Where Do They Stand Now?

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Taylor Swift's Relationships With Her Exes: Where Do They Stand Now?

They are never ever getting back together — but they might still be speaking. Though Taylor Swift is known for dropping hints about her famous relationships in her song lyrics, she's actually on good terms with several of her ex-boyfriends. One of the "Begin Again" songstress' most high-profile romances was her brief liaison with fellow pop star Harry Styles. The former One Direction member and the Giver actress dated from late 2012 to early 2013, and fans have long believed their relationship inspired Swift's tracks "Out of the Woods" and "Style." Perhaps because he's a songwriter himself, the Dunkirk star never had any problems with his ex-girlfriend penning tunes about their time together. “It would be hypocritical for me to say she couldn’t do it because everybody writes songs based on personal experience,” the U.K. native told Us Weekly in August 2013. “I can’t say I’d have dated someone less famous to avoid it.” In the same interview, he also praised her ability to turn a phrase. "At least she’s a great songwriter!” he quipped. Joe Jonas, another one of Swift's musician exes, split from the Grammy winner in 2008, but he found himself in her crosshairs again in 2021 when she released Fearless (Taylor's Version) in April of that year. Two previously unreleased tracks, "Mr. Perfectly Fine" and "You All Over Me," were seemingly about their short-lived relationship. [jwplayer aMF82WI1-zhNYySv2] Like Styles, the DNCE member had only good things to say about his ex-girlfriend and her decision to rerecord her early albums after losing control of her masters. "I thought [it] was really clever,” he told BuzzFeed in June 2021. Jonas' wife, Sophie Turner, also shared her thoughts on the new tracks after the album's release. “It’s not NOT a bop," she wrote via Instagram alongside a screenshot of herself listening to "Mr. Perfectly Fine" when it premiered in April 2021. Other men who dated Swift, however, are less eager to discuss their past with the "I Knew You Were Trouble" singer. Jake Gyllenhaal found himself in the spotlight again in November 2021 after Swift released a 10-minute version of "All Too Well," widely believed by fans to be about their 2010 romance. As Swift promoted the song with a 15-minute short film and various late-night appearances, including a performance on Saturday Night Live, the Jarhead actor remained silent. Shortly after the release of Red (Taylor's Version), however, an eyewitness told Us that Gyllenhaal seemed unbothered by the hubbub while at an event in Los Angeles. "Jake was in a good mood,” the source said in November 2021. “He was proud to be there." Keep scrolling to see where things stand between Swift and her exes now: [podcast_block]

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Taylor Swift's Relationships With Her Exes: Where Do They Stand Now?

They are never ever getting back together — but they might still be speaking. Though Taylor Swift is known for dropping hints about her famous relationships in her song lyrics, she's actually on good terms with several of her ex-boyfriends. One of the "Begin Again" songstress' most high-profile romances was her brief liaison with fellow pop star Harry Styles. The former One Direction member and the Giver actress dated from late 2012 to early 2013, and fans have long believed their relationship inspired Swift's tracks "Out of the Woods" and "Style." Perhaps because he's a songwriter himself, the Dunkirk star never had any problems with his ex-girlfriend penning tunes about their time together. “It would be hypocritical for me to say she couldn’t do it because everybody writes songs based on personal experience,” the U.K. native told Us Weekly in August 2013. “I can’t say I’d have dated someone less famous to avoid it.” In the same interview, he also praised her ability to turn a phrase. "At least she’s a great songwriter!” he quipped. Joe Jonas, another one of Swift's musician exes, split from the Grammy winner in 2008, but he found himself in her crosshairs again in 2021 when she released Fearless (Taylor's Version) in April of that year. Two previously unreleased tracks, "Mr. Perfectly Fine" and "You All Over Me," were seemingly about their short-lived relationship. [jwplayer aMF82WI1-zhNYySv2] Like Styles, the DNCE member had only good things to say about his ex-girlfriend and her decision to rerecord her early albums after losing control of her masters. "I thought [it] was really clever,” he told BuzzFeed in June 2021. Jonas' wife, Sophie Turner, also shared her thoughts on the new tracks after the album's release. “It’s not NOT a bop," she wrote via Instagram alongside a screenshot of herself listening to "Mr. Perfectly Fine" when it premiered in April 2021. Other men who dated Swift, however, are less eager to discuss their past with the "I Knew You Were Trouble" singer. Jake Gyllenhaal found himself in the spotlight again in November 2021 after Swift released a 10-minute version of "All Too Well," widely believed by fans to be about their 2010 romance. As Swift promoted the song with a 15-minute short film and various late-night appearances, including a performance on Saturday Night Live, the Jarhead actor remained silent. Shortly after the release of Red (Taylor's Version), however, an eyewitness told Us that Gyllenhaal seemed unbothered by the hubbub while at an event in Los Angeles. "Jake was in a good mood,” the source said in November 2021. “He was proud to be there." Keep scrolling to see where things stand between Swift and her exes now: [podcast_block]

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Joe Jonas

The former Disney star and the Cats actress dated in 2008. Though Swift later said that Jonas dumped her via a 27-second phone call, the duo eventually moved past their complicated history. In May 2019, the Pennsylvania native admitted that her Jonas-related behavior was a bit over the top. When Ellen DeGeneres asked her to name the "most rebellious thing" she did as a teenager, Swift replied, "Probably when I, like, put Joe Jonas on blast on your show. That was too much. That was too much. I was 18. Yeah. We laugh about it now, but … that was mouthy. Just some teenage stuff there.”

One month later, Jonas said it felt "nice" to hear that his ex had some regrets. “It’s something that I probably was feeling bad about when I was younger, but at the end of the day, I’ve moved on and I’m sure Taylor’s moved on and it feels nice," he told ITV's Lorraine in June 2019. "We’re all friends and it’s all good.”

When Jonas welcomed his first child with Turner in July 2020, fans were certain that Swift sent the happy family a baby gift because of a line in the song "Invisible Strings." Just over one year later, Jonas was spotted at an afterparty for Swift's November 2021 SNL appearance.

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Taylor Lautner

The Twilight star and Swift dated for three months in 2009 after meeting on the set of the movie Valentine's Day. Shortly after their split, the "Back to December" songstress described Lautner as "one of my best friends" during an October 2010 interview with Glamour. “He's wonderful, and we'll always be close," she added. "I'm so thankful for that."

There don't seem to be any lingering hard feelings between the pair, but the Abduction star also doesn't seem totally comfortable discussing his past with Swift. When Lea Michele asked the actor whether Swift had written a song about him, Lautner replied, "That's what she does. She writes songs." He eventually admitted that "Back to December" is the name of the track believed to be about their relationship.

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John Mayer

The "Gravity" singer was briefly linked to Swift from 2009 to 2010, and fans have theorized that the Speak Now track "Dear John" is about him. Though the Connecticut has alternately praised and dismissed Swift's songwriting skills, his interactions with her fans imply that he has mixed feelings about being the subject of speculation. After a Swiftie messaged him, "I hope you choke on something,” Mayer replied, “I’ve been getting so many messages like these the past couple days. I’m not upset, I just tend to have a curious mind and feel compelled to ask. Do you really hope that I die?”

When the user said that she'd been dared to message him in the aftermath of the Red (Taylor's Version) release, Mayer added, “So it’s a fun thing people are doing without taking into account that I might see it and be affected by it? It’s 100 percent OK. Go forth and live happy and healthy!”

“John is trying his best to avoid the attention he’s been getting from Taylor’s new album,” a source told Us after the Red rerelease in November 2021, adding that the guitarist felt like his past was "coming back to haunt him."

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Jake Gyllenhaal

The Nightcrawler actor and the "State of Grace" singer dated in the fall of 2010 before splitting up just before New Year's Eve. Though fans have speculated that several Red tracks are about him, he has never addressed his relationship with Swift in detail. "Do I [have a song]? I don't know," he joked during a 2015 interview with Howard Stern.

The actor's sister, Maggie Gyllenhaal, however, has shared her thoughts on the line, "I left my scarf there at your sister's house," which listeners thought was a reference to her. “I never understood why everybody asked me about the scarf. What is this?” the Secretary star said during a September 2017 appearance on Watch What Happens Live With Andy Cohen. “I am in the dark about the scarf. It’s totally possible, I don’t know. I’ve been asked this before and I’ve been like, 'What are you talking about?'”

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Harry Styles

Nearly a decade after their split, the duo reunited at the 2021 Grammys, where Swift lost Best Pop Solo Performance to her ex. The "Exile" singer didn't seem upset, though, and enthusiastically clapped for Styles' first-ever Grammy win. Later in the evening, the pair shared a chat backstage and seemed totally pleased to see one another.

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Calvin Harris

Swift and the DJ split in June 2016 after more than one year of dating. Though the breakup seemed amicable at the time, Harris later accused his ex of trying to make him "look bad" by revealing that she had cowritten the song "This Is What You Came For." Fans later theorized that her 2017 song "Look What You Made Me Do" was directed at the Scottish musician.

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Tom Hiddleston

After splitting from Harris, Swift quickly moved on with the Loki actor, whom she dated for three months in 2016. Months after the breakup, Hiddleston defended the relationship from critics who thought it was all a publicity stunt. “Of course it was real,” he told GQ in February 2017. “Taylor is an amazing woman. She’s generous and kind and lovely, and we had the best time.”

Two years later, the actor wouldn't mention her by name during an interview with The New York Times, but he did admit that their romance taught him some lessons about navigating fame. "I’m protective about my internal world now in probably a different way,” he said in August 2019. “That’s because I didn’t realize it needed protecting before.”