The ABC show is constantly looking for contestants who are there for the right reasons. Keep scrolling for a look at what all the winners of The Bachelor and The Bachelorette are doing now. It’s up to you to decide who was truly in it for love:
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Former 'Bachelor' and 'Bachelorette' Winners: Where Are They Now?
Not every couple survives the reality TV curse, especially in Bachelor Nation. However, that doesn't change the fact that the franchise is one of the most popular reality shows on TV.
When The Bachelor first debuted in 2005, not even then-host Chris Harrison would have predicted that it would result in six different spinoffs: The Bachelorette, Bachelor Pad, Bachelor in Paradise, Bachelor in Paradise: After Paradise, The Bachelor Winter Games and The Golden Bachelor.
The ABC show is constantly looking for contestants who are there for the right reasons. Keep scrolling for a look at what all the winners of The Bachelor and The Bachelorette are doing now. It's up to you to decide who was truly in it for love:
“There was a time after I was divorced — I was divorced for several years before I met my fiancé — where I thought about reaching out to ABC and thought, ‘Should we give this a go,” she told Us. “But it is funny because I met my fiancé on Match.com because I knew I was going to relocate to Kansas City and he lived up here. … After the show [Alex] ended up working for Match.com, so it’s almost like I still thank him.”
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While she was the first contestant to receive and accept a proposal on the show, her relationship with Aaron Buerge ended weeks later. She works as a New Jersey school psychologist and is married to IBM consultant Andrew Goodman.
Several months after the season 3 finale, Jen and Andrew Firestone called off their engagement.She went on to become The Bachelorette but turned down two marriage proposals. In 2009, she married Joe Waterman and the couple have two children.
At the end of season 4, Bob Guiney gave Estella a promise ring, but they split shortly after the show aired. She now owns a fitness studio in Carlsbad, California.
In 2004, Jesse Palmer decided not to propose to Jessica, but the pair dated for a few months after the show ended. She now works as an attorney and is married to Omar Rawi. The pair have two children, Brady and Parker.
After accepting Byron Velvick’s proposal on the season 6 finale, the pair stayed together for years before calling it quits in 2009. She now owns a real estate company in Tampa, Florida. In 2015, she married James Kordomenos.
Sarah and season 7 Bachelor Charlie O’Connell had an on-off relationship after the finale aired. They split in 2010. Today, she lives in Dallas, Texas, and she and her husband share three sons.
Sarah briefly dated Travis Stork after he picked her — but did not propose — on season 8, but the pair did not last. She now is married with three daughters and is a cohost of the “Say It Southern” podcast.
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Prince Lorenzo Borghese and Jennifer dated for a year after season 9 of The Bachelor before splitting in 2007. She now is married to an accountant but keeps most of her personal life off social media.
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Horst and Andy Baldwin were briefly engaged following season 10 but ended things in 2007, about six months after the show wrapped. She is now married to Tom Pickard and the couple share a son. She lives in San Francisco and is the founder of the Infant Growth Group.
Shayne and Matt Grant didn’t last long after he proposed on the season 12 finale. She wed Nik Richie in 2010 and later welcomed two children with him. In 2021, Shayne announced via Instagram that she and Nik were separating.
"Friends & Family, after 11 years together Nik and I have come to a loving conclusion to get a divorce, we have nothing but love and respect for one another and will cherish the years shared, memories made, and the children we are so proud of," she wrote at the time. "This is just the situation of two people growing apart."
While Jason Mesnick proposed to Melissa on the finale, he dumped her on the after-show and decided to choose runner-up Molly Malaney instead. Melissa starred on multiple reality shows through the years, including two seasons of Dancing With the Stars, before going on to host Bachelor Pad and Redneck Island. In 2009, she married Tye Strickland. They have three children.
Jake Pavelka proposed to Vienna at the end of season 14 but the couple split several months after the show wrapped in 2010. She went on to date Bachelor Pad 2 alum Kasey Kahl and later NASCAR racer Todd Allen, whom she was briefly engaged to in 2016.
In September 2021, Vienna announced the birth of her son, Enzo. "Welcome to the world Enzo!. Thank you for choosing me to be your mommy. ❤️," she captioned an Instagram photo of her little one.
When Brad Womack returned for season 15, he proposed to Emily … but they split after a few months. In 2012, she became the Bachelorette and was briefly engaged to her winner, Jef Holm. In 2014, she married Tyler Johnson. Emily shares four children with Johnson. She is also the mother of daughter Ricki, whom she welcomed with late fiancé Ricky Hendrick in 2005.
Ben Flajnik proposed to Courtney at the end of season 16; the pair split, then got back together and re-engaged during the live after show. However, it didn’t last. She went on to briefly date Arie Luyendyk Jr., who went on to become the Bachelor. In December 2019, Us broke the news that she is engaged to Humberto Preciado. The pair are expecting their first child.
The couple wed in October 2020, four months after the birth of their son, Joaquin Ramon. They welcomed a daughter named Paloma in November 2021.
Sean Lowe and Catherine got engaged during season 17 of The Bachelor. The couple tied the knot in a television wedding in January 2014. Two years later, they welcomed their first son, Samuel. In 2018, they had another son, Isaiah. Days before Christmas 2019, they welcomed their first daughter, Mia, via C-section.
“I haven’t been able to help much with the boys while I’m in surgery recovery but he’s been dad of the decade already and it’s only day two of 2020,” she wrote on Instagram on January 2, 2020.
While she won Juan Pablo Galavis' heart at the end of season 18, the duo split months later in 2014. In October 2016, the nurse practitioner married Tyler Vanloo. The couple briefly separated before reuniting in November 2019. They welcomed son River in November 2022.
Chris Soules proposed to Whitney at the end of season 19 in 2015. Months later, the pair called off their engagement. Later that year, she met RickyAngel on Bumble and the two married in 2017. They welcomed their first child, a son, in May 2019.
Lauren and Ben Higgins got engaged on the season 20 Bachelor finale and went on to star in their own spinoff, Ben and Lauren: Happily Ever After? However, they split in 2017. She began dating country singer Chris Lane in November 2018, and they married in October 2019. The couple welcomed sons Dutton and Baker in 2021 and 2022, respectively.
Nick Viall proposed to Vanessa in 2017 during the finale of season 21 of The Bachelor. However, in August of the same year, the pair split. In January 2019, she made her relationship official with Josh Wolfe. They announced their engagement in August 2020. Grimaldi and Wolfe tied the knot in Montreal in August 2021.
The couple welcomed a son in September 2022.
Arie proposed to Becca at the end of season 22 of The Bachelor, but before the season aired, he changed his mind and called off the engagement. Becca went on to become the Bachelorette and get engaged to Garrett Yrigoyen. Becca and Garrett called it quits during the summer of 2020 after two years together.
Becca began dating Bachelor Nation's Thomas Jacobs after meeting him on Bachelor in Paradise in 2021. She proposed to Thomas in May 2022. In April 2023, the pair announced that they are expecting their first child.
During Colton Underwood’s season of The Bachelor, Cassie went home when he told her he loved her. However, he sent his remaining two women home and flew to visit her, asking if she wanted to date — not get engaged — and see where it went. She agreed and the two dated until May 2020, when they announced their split. The grad student was subsequently granted a temporary restraining order against Colton after she accused him of harassment and stalking in September 2020. The order was dropped in November 2020.
She later moved on with Brighton Reinhardt.
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Two months after Peter Webergot down on one knee in Australia during the season 24 finale of The Bachelor, he broke up with the model because he had unresolved feelings for Madison Prewett, who quit during the final week. During their live reunion onstage in March 2020, Hannah Ann did not hold back. “Word of advice,” she quipped. “If you want to be with a woman, you need to become a real man.”
Hannah Ann confirmed in February 2022 that she is dating NFL player Jake Funk. In January 2023, she revealed that the running back proposed while on a romantic beach getaway.
While Matt opted not to propose to Rachael during the finale, which aired in March 2021, they left the show as a couple. The twosome had secretly split, however, in February 2021 after she was accused of being racist and photos of her at an antebellum-themed party on a plantation in college resurfaced. Rachael apologized for her actions twice via Instagram before sitting down with Matt and guest host Emmanuel Acho during After the Final Rose.
“When he first called me to end things, my initial reaction was I was very confused. I was very blindsided,” Rachael said on the special. “But once that initial reaction went away, I thought about, you know, how strong I thought our relationship was. So for him to end things, like, he must have been very, very hurt by everything. It was hard, because I lost the love of my life."
After they were spotted together in April 2021, Matt and Rachael confirmed that May that they were giving their romance another shot. The duo exclusively told Us in July 2023 that they are used to speculation about them breaking up again.
“I think that we’ve been through so much stuff at this point that nothing really phases us. I get it — because we’re together so much so whenever our schedules don’t line up or whenever we have our own things going on, I get where people come from," Rachael said.
Matt, for his part, admitted that even his mom is prone to worrying about their relationship status.
“I’ll come home and if Rachael’s not with me, my mom’s like, ‘What’s wrong? Where’s Rachael?’” he told Us. “I’m like, ‘She had to go home to see her family!’ She has her mom and her dad and brother and sister [in Atlanta].”
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Though her season 26 journey didn't end with an engagement — or even with lead Clayton Echard — the reality stars reconnected after filming wrapped. "The love didn't stop in Iceland. ... I knew the best thing was to break ties and then reassess," the videographer told Good Morning America in March 2022. The couple planned on moving in together in Virginia but weren't rushing to walk down the aisle.
Ryan won the first season of The Bachelorette in 2003, getting engaged to Trista Rehn. The couple married in a TV wedding in 2003 and live in Colorado with their two children.
In November 2020, Trista revealed that Ryan is “struggling to get answers” amid a health scare.
“We found out that Ryan doesn’t have cancer. A HUGE relief … without a doubt, especially after fighting to find a doctor to take symptoms that lined up with lymphoma seriously and advocating for the scans to rule it out. But part of us was wanting a diagnosis,” she wrote via Instagram. “Wanting to be able to fight for him to be cured instead of fighting for an answer. How messed up is that? Don’t worry, I know. It’s messed up. But, that’s where we are. In a holding pattern of not knowing. And believe me …I know it could be worse, so for that, I am thankful. Thankful to not have to be separated from a loved one who is dying due to COVID. Thankful to not have 2 children with a cancer diagnosis. Thankful to have each other and health insurance and jobs and a home and food on the table and healthy family members and all the things that make this life struggle-free.”
In May 2021, Ryan revealed he was battling Lyme disease after his “immune system was weakened through exposures to toxins and especially to mold.”
A year after getting engaged to Meredith Phillips on season 2 of The Bachelorette, the pair called it quits. He works as the CEO of Solidos, Inc., a recycling company.
During the finale of season 3 of The Bachelorette, Jen Schefft turned down Jerry’s proposal; the pair dated briefly after the show but later split. In 2011, he married actress Natasha Goss. In 2014, they welcomed a son.
In 2008, Jesse proposed to DeAnna Pappas at the end of season 4 of The Bachelorette. However, the pair split. A few months later, the pro snowboarder went on to marry Bachelor contestant Ann Lueders in 2010 and the pair have three children, Noah, born in February 2011, Carter, born in December 2016, and Charlotte, born in March 2014.
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During season 5 of The Bachelorette, Ed left Jillian Harris’ season to focus on his job with Microsoft, only to return, win and get engaged. They split in 2010 and he competed on Bachelor Pad season 3. In 2015, he married Good Day Chicago host Natalie Bomke and the pair welcomed daughter Olive in 2020. Ed works as the Senior Vice President of Digital at Kambio Group.
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Roberto and Ali Fedowsky got engaged in 2010 but split in November 2011, 18 months later. Roberto lives in Colorado Springs and works as a State Farm Insurance Agent. In December 2019, he shared on Twitter that he is engaged to Kristiana Elliott. “When you know you know. Found my forever sweetheart,” he captioned three photos of the couple — which he later deleted.
In June 2021, Ali exclusively told Us that she spoke to Roberto after season 6 of The Bachelorette reaired as part of The Bachelor: The Greatest Seasons — Ever! during the summer of 2020.
“I just wrote him and said I respect his decision not to be on the show because he decided not to be and just said, ‘I hope everything's going well.’ And he just wrote back and said, ‘Yeah, I'll never forget it. It was a special time for me, but I'm sort of doing my own thing,’” she explained, noting they check in with one another “every couple years” or so via text messages. “I'm still friends with his dad on Facebook, you know, there’s, like, no animosity there, anything. And his dad actually the other day posted a picture of him and his brother. And I'm like, ‘Oh, he looks good. I hope he's doing well.’”
J.P. got engaged to Ashley Hebert in 2011 during the season 7 finale. The pair married in 2012 and welcomed their first son in 2014. Two years later, they welcomed a daughter. They renewed their vows in 2018. The following year, J.P. was diagnosed with a rare neurological disorder called Guillain-Barré syndrome. J.P. and Ashley announced their split in 2020 after nearly eight years of marriage.
During The Bachelorette in 2012, Jef proposed to Emily Maynard. However, they split shortly after. While he was later linked to Bachelor in Paradise alum Kristina Schulman, he is not very active on social media. He lives in Venice and is the CEO of People Water, a for-profit company to help provide clean water for those in need.
Ever since getting engaged to Desiree Hartsock on season 9, the pair have lived in Seattle together. They tied the knot in January 2015. One year later, they had their first son. In 2019, their second son arrived.
Six months after proposing to Andi Dorfman at the end of season 10 of The Bachelorette, the pair split. In 2016, he appeared on season 3 of Bachelor in Paradise and proposed to Amanda Stanton. However, they later called off their engagement. He last appeared on MTV’s Champ vs. Stars.
During season 11 of The Bachelorette, Booth got engaged to Kaitlyn Bristowe. The pair moved to Nashville where he opened BoothCamp Gym. However, in November 2018, they called off their engagement after three years together.
Shawn revealed during a July 2023 episode of his "In the Booth" podcast that he is expecting his first child in December 2023. “I’ve dated since the show. I’ve dated a bunch of people. I’ve had a girlfriend. … I’ve always just kept things very private," he said. Although Shawn admitted that the pregnancy wasn't planned, he emphasized: "The mother is somebody who I’ve been close with for years. We’ve had a relationship and we’ve dated. This just isn’t some random girl I met at Honky Tonk Central."
The former NFL quarterback proposed to JoJo Fletcher during the season 12 finale of The Bachelorette in 2016. However, the pair wanted to enjoy their engagement and in August 2019, he proposed again. The Cash Pad costars, who planned to marry in the summer of 2020, had to push their wedding back due to the coronavirus pandemic. He and JoJo finally exchanged vows in May 2022.
After proposing to Rachel Lindsay on the season 12 finale of The Bachelorette, the chiropractor and the lawyer went on to live a fairytale. They married in August 2019 in Mexico, honeymooned in Greece and are planning to begin a family soon.
On the season 14 finale, the medical sales representative proposed to Kufrin. Following his 2020 split from Becca, she moved to Los Angeles and he remained in San Diego. Garrett introduced his followers to his new girlfriend, Alex Farrar, in October 2020 via Instagram. He proposed to Alex in October 2022 after two years together.
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Although he and Hannah Brown got engaged on the season 15 finale, she called it off shortly after the show wrapped when she found out he had a girlfriend. Since the show, he has apologized and moved on. Since November 2019, he has been dating personal trainer Ellen Decker. Wyatt proposed to Decker in July 2022 after nearly three years of dating.
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The former football player quickly hit it off with Clare Crawley while filming season 16 of The Bachelorette in July 2020. So much so that the hairstylist broke up with the 16 remaining contestants within the first two weeks of filming for him. Dale subsequently proposed to Clare and they left the Palm Springs set engaged. While Dale and Clare announced their plans to live in her native Sacramento, fans noticed he was spending a lot of time in New York City in January 2021. That same month, Dale confirmed that the twosome ended their engagement. A source told Us at the time that their romance "caused friction with Dale's friends and family” and the twosome couldn’t work through their “serious issues.”
Us broke the news in February 2021 that Dale and Clare were giving their romance another shot. Seven months later, a source told Us that things were over again, with Dale wanting to remain in New York and Clare living in Sacramento.
Us confirmed in June 2022 that he is dating designer Galey Alix.
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The addiction specialist proposed to Tayshia Adams during the December 2020 finale of The Bachelorette. They subsequently revealed on Good Morning America that they will have a bicoastal engagement and take their time wedding planning.
“I mean, I want a big wedding when the day comes. She might think differently and she’s going to get what she wants,” Zac said on GMA at the time. “But, no, I want to date. I want to take you out and do all those things.”
In November 2021, the duo called it quits nearly one year after their engagement aired on ABC. “Tayshia Adams and Zac Clark are no longer a couple,” a spokesperson told Us at the time.
After appearing on season 16 of The Bachelorette, Blake returned for season 17 to pursue Katie Thurston. In the end, he proposed during the August 2021 finale and they began splitting their time between Canada, where Blake is from, and her new home in San Diego. Thurston confirmed in October 2021 that the pair ended their engagement.
“It is with mutual love and respect that we have decided to go our separate ways. We are so grateful for the moments we shared together and the entire journey that has unfolded this year, but we ultimately have concluded that we are not compatible as life partners, and it is the most caring choice for both of us to move forward independently,” the Washington native wrote via Instagram at the time. “We ask for kindness and privacy as we both navigate this transition. Both of us will forever want the best for one another and ask you to please support us in our decision.”
Blake will appear on season 9 of Bachelor in Paradise in 2023.
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The season 18 Bachelorette contestant proposed to lead Michelle Young during the December 2021 finale despite her family's concerns that he wasn't ready for marriage. Following their engagement — and after his commitment to move to Minnesota — the couple exclusively told Us they were already itching to tie the knot.
"We're thinking summertime," the sales exec hinted. "In the near future, we'll put it that way."
Several months later, however, news broke that he and Michelle split. “When we both started this journey, we were looking for our soulmates. Our forever. Our best friends. However, as we grow and learn, we also really that sometimes somebody that you hold dear to your heart isn’t somebody you’re meant to spend the rest of your life with,” he wrote via Instagram in June 2022.
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The New Jersey native proposed to Gabby Windey during the season 19 finale, which aired in September 2022. Though the twosome had their ups and downs throughout the season, Erich happily supported his fiancée when she began competing on Dancing With the Stars season 31.
Less than two months after their engagement aired, the former NFL cheerleader sparked split speculation when she didn't wear her ring for two episodes of DWTS. After the October 31 episode, she hinted that the duo were taking some time apart to figure things out. Four days later, the pair confirmed that they'd called it quits.
Erich debuted his romance with model Elizabeth Turner via Instagram in February 2023, resharing a photo of Turner kissing him on the cheek and captioned "Valentine."
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Dotun got engaged to Charity Lawson during season 20 of The Bachelorette, which aired in 2023. The twosome plan to wed “sooner rather than later” after he supports Charity on season 32 of Dancing With the Stars.