Group hug for Aisha Tyler. On The Talk Tuesday, Sept. 10, the 42-year-old actress and co-host revealed a secret she's been keeping for two years. Tyler and attorney husband Jeff Tietjens, married since 1992, have been struggling with infertility and have decided to stop trying to get pregnant.
Tyler revealed on the show that despite going off birth control, she still wasn't able to conceive. Later, she learned she has a tortuous fallopian tube, which makes it "very hard for a sperm to get to your egg." The couple decided to try in vitro fertilization, though Tyler explained, "After 40 your chances of getting pregnant are between 2 and 8 percent, and in my particular case they were less than 5 percent."
"I'm old," she said. "In baby years, that's old to be trying to get pregnant."
After going through a lot of procedures, getting a lot of shots and spending a lot of money, Tyler said her doctor told her, "'Look, based on what we're seeing here, I just don't think this is going to happen for you.'"
Getting emotional and shedding a few tears, Tyler told her fellow co-hosts that she and Tietjens decided to stop trying. "We just decided it wasn't worth it to go through that and so we decided to stop," she said. "It was better to not go through that torture."
The decision was heart-breaking for Tyler. She explained, "I married my husband because I loved him and I don't feel like there's anybody missing from our marriage, but when you think about this person that you love, and you think about what a wonderful thing it would be to bring another person like that into this world, I think that's the hardest part about all of it."
When asked by Sara Gilbert if she would consider other options to become a mother, Tyler said, "I love the idea of adoption, but I feel like this is such a fresh wound that I want to let it heal for a while before I think about what we could do next."