Eva Longoria hasn’t picked a wedding venue or even a dress, but she says in the new issue of Us Weekly that she and fiancé José “Pepe” Baston have “been calling each other husband and wife for a while.”

The pair used the terms even before Baston, 47, a divorced dad of three and president of Latin media brand Grupo Televisa, proposed with a ruby ring in Dubai last December. Now, “the word fiancée feels like I got demoted!” she says, adding, “We feel married.”

The Telenovela star, 40, and Baston dated for two years after a mutual friend introduced them in 2013. Meeting the executive — Longoria calls him “the man of my dreams” — was a bright spot for the twice-divorced actress and producer. She was previously wed to soap star Tyler Christopher from 2002 to 2004 and NBA pro Tony Parker from 2007 to 2011. (Us broke the story of Parker’s cheating, which he denied.)

Longoria says lessons she learned from previous romances have helped her appreciate what she has with Baston. “What makes my relationship with Pepe so much sweeter is that I don’t put pressure on myself or the idea of marriage as much as I did when I was younger,” she says. “I wanted to walk down the aisle, I wanted a dress, I wanted the church. Once you realize a wedding isn’t a marriage, then you can learn to appreciate it more, and it lessens the expectations when you’ve gone through it.”

The former Desperate Housewives standout says she’s also now less controlling about “simple things” like dinner plans and vacation plans. “I used to care so deeply about all of those things that peck away at a relationship. If I let go of the reins, I know Pepe knows how to drive, and I trust that. I’ve found patience to relax and let go.”

Pick up the new issue of Us Weekly, on stands now, for more on Longoria's love story.

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