It's over. Tobey Maguire and his wife, jewelry designer Jennifer Meyer, have split after nine years of marriage, the couple tell Us Weekly in a joint statement.

"After much soul searching and consideration we have made the decision to separate as a couple," they tell Us. "As devoted parents, our first priority remains raising our children together with enduring love, respect and friendship."

A source adds that the decision "was not sudden" and there was "no drama."

"They are committed to remaining friends for their children and wanted to wait to make sure of that," the source tells Us. "They went back and forth on this decision but realized this is where the relationship is and they simply grew apart."

The Spider-Man actor, 41, and Meyer, 39, met in 2003 and tied the knot in Hawaii in September 2007. They exchanged vows in an intimate ceremony in front of family and friends, including Maguire's BFF, Leonardo DiCaprio.

The pair are parents of daughter Ruby, 9, and son Otis, 7. (DiCaprio, 41, has been rumored to be Ruby's godfather. He and Maguire more recently starred in 2013's The Great Gatsby together.)

Maguire and Meyer, whose famous clients include pals such as Jennifer Aniston and Gwyneth Paltrow, have kept tight-lipped about their relationship over the years.

In May 2007, Maguire opened up about fatherhood during an appearance on the Late Show With David Letterman. "It’s a very dramatic change," he said at the time. "It’s great. [Ruby is] so adorable. She’s just a smiley, little beautiful thing."

Back in 2013, he further discussed how he balances his home life with his career. "I moved around so much and I've continued that in my career. I'm an actor – we go away for a few months and set up our world. And I want my kids to stay in school and make their friends and do all that," he told The Guardian. "But I also appreciate traveling and having different experiences. And though I don't mind the idea of making some sacrifices, I also want to go pursue my career at the same time. I try not to make decisions based on conditioning."

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