Jessica Alba: True Romance Isn’t “About Swinging From Chandeliers”

Actress Jessica Alba and husband Cash Warren take their daughters Honor and Haven to the Coldwater Canyon Park in Beverly Hills, CA on January 28, 2012. FameFlynet Pictures

A lot has changed since Jessica Alba and Cash Warren first became parents nearly four years ago. Now the happy parents of daughters Honor, 3, and Haven, 8 months, the couple — married since May 2008 — have learned why it's important to always make time for each other.

"It's hard to imagine what life is going to be like after your first baby, not to mention your second! Diapers are a certainty. Sleepless nights, coffee, and concealer (lots of it) are probably guaranteed too. Having time to see a movie or enjoy a glass of wine by yourself — let alone with your husband — before your kids head off to college? I know — it feels like an impossibility or a far-off dream," Alba, 31, writes in her iVillage blog. "But I can assure you it's not."

Thanks to some advice from a friend, "Cash and I have found that maintaining a family schedule is the key to making time for each other," Alba writes. "Whether we're settling into the couch to watch bad reality television or getting a babysitter so we can enjoy a date night out, we always know we have dedicated time after the girls are asleep to catch up, discuss what's on our minds, and simply just be with each other — no cell phones or e-mail allowed!"

She adds: "Making time for our relationship in our daily routine — even though it's surprisingly predictable and may not seem as spicy as our spontaneous pre-kiddo days — really helps keep the romance alive."

Now that she's a older and wiser, "I don't think romance is always about swinging from chandeliers (although it's nice from time to time)," Alba writes in her iVillage blog. "It's really about the small gestures."

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While filming a movie in Atlanta recently, Warren, 33, "surprised me by having a beautiful bouquet of flowers delivered to the set," Alba recalls. "It was a simple, heartfelt surprise that let me know he was thinking of me during my time away from home. I loved it."

Gushes Alba: "He also takes over middle-of-the-night feedings, tends to fevers, and takes the girls to the park without me having to ask because he knows I need a break. All these things add to our romance."

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