Sarah McLachlan Opens Up About “Devastating” Divorce

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Sarah McLachlan's world nearly fell apart when she divorced her drummer Ashwin Sood in 2008 — but these days, she's finally able to laugh about it.

"Yeah, the marriage part didn't quite work out," the singer tells Spinner. "Apparently that's a bit of an epidemic, so I just make light of it."

The 43-year-old Grammy winner admits that it wasn't always so easy to find humor in her heartache. "Coming to terms with the fact that my marriage was a failure was devastating and very difficult," she says. "I blamed myself for a lot of things. It took me a very long time to get over it."

"I have amazing friends, great family and two kids, so I just got out of bed everyday and kept moving forward," she continues. "I'm not one to sit and wallow — I would rather figure out a way around so I can move past it and be at peace with things. I don't like bad feelings gnawing away at me."

"So I've certainly done a lot of growing up in the past couple of years, recognizing bad traits in myself and others."

As a result, the "Angel" singer (and mom to daughters India, 9, and Taja, 3) decided to use the experience as material for her latest album, Laws of Illusion.

"Music has always been incredibly cathartic for me, whether it's writing my own stuff or singing other people's music; it's very freeing. But it did take me a long while to be able to write again because I was just too far down a deep dark hole to do anything," she says. "I had to crawl back up, get some light in and have some objectivity before I could start writing again."

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