Candace Cameron Bure Defends Her "Submissive Role" With Husband: "I Want Him to Lead"
In Candace Cameron Bure's household, her husband is the one in charge. In her new book, Balancing It All: My Story of Juggling Priorities and Purpose, the Full House alum says she has a "submissive role" to her husband, Valeri Bure. During a recent appearance on HuffPost Live, Bure defended her views on marriage.
"The definition I'm using with the word 'submissive' is the biblical definition of that," Bure explained. "So, it is meekness, it is not weakness. It is strength under control, it is bridled strength. And that's what I choose to have in my marriage."
In her book, the former child star wrote, "My husband is a natural-born leader. I quickly learned that I had to find a way of honoring his take-charge personality and not get frustrated about his desire to have the final decision on just about everything. I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work."
Bure told HuffPost that she stands by what she wrote, and is happy with her 17-year marriage to the former NHL player. (The spouses are parents to daughter Natasha, 15, and sons Lev, 13, and Maksim, 11.)
"I love that my man is a leader. I want him to lead and be the head of our family," she said. "Those major decisions do fall on him, but it doesn't mean I don't voice my opinion or have an opinion, I absolutely do."
But, ultimately, her husband gets the final say. "It is very difficult to have two heads of authority," Bure explained. "It doesn't work in military, it doesn't work -- I mean, you have one president, you know what I'm saying?"
She further explained: "We are equal in our . . . importance, but we are just different in our performances within our marriage."