Australian parenting blogger Sophie Cachia is more than eight months pregnant with her second child — and she’s terrified.
“Guess who abruptly knocked on my door again over the weekend? Anxiety, she’s back,” the mom of Bobby, 2, wrote in a November 27 post. “I don’t think you’re ever ready for a baby to arrive, but boy, this time I am NOT READY. Not mentally, not physically, not at all.”
The 26-year-old, who boasts 151,000 followers, went on to recall that the last 10 weeks of her first pregnancy seemed to go on forever. “This time it’s flying and it’s freaking me out,” she revealed. “Hopefully it’s just my hormones playing up on me and I’ll be back to being all excited again like I have been for a while now. I’m just petrified. Petrified of not being able to cope.”
Cachia continued, “Second time around, you know what’s coming & you know what you’re in for.”
The Young Mummy blogger is not alone, says Dr. Susan Bartell, a New York–based parenting psychologist. “The second time around is stressful because you’ve already been through it, and you know how hard it is to go through those first couple of months of having a newborn, the sleep deprivation, the crankiness, the not knowing what they’re crying for,” the Top 50 Questions Kids Ask author tells Us Weekly. “With a first baby you’re kind of blissfully clueless.”
Bartell notes that nearly every mom fears she won’t be able to handle life with a toddler and a newborn. “You have to ask for help from your partner, from friends, from grandparents,” she tells Us. “That means if someone offers to watch the kids while you take a nap, just say yes.”
“Sleep deprivation can trigger postpartum depression and anxiety,” Bartell explains. “It can make it impossible to cope, so you need to try and get as much sleep as you can.”
Cachia, who is married to Australian rules footballer Jaryd Cachia, announced in a December 1 Facebook post that she is feeling better. “The start of the week I was a broken mess,” she wrote. “Today I’m so excited about a friend’s wedding & spending the whole day with my gorgeous supportive man.”
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