Taylor Swift Gives Advice About Unrequited Love to a Young Fan: Read Her Instagram Response
Paging the love doctor! Taylor Swift doled out invaluable relationship advice to a fan via Instagram this week after the youngster, a girl named Hannah, reached out to her on the site in a post on Tuesday, July 22.
"There's a guy Taylor," Hannah (@sherbetswift) confessed to the country pop singer. "A guy who's sweet and charming and makes me laugh. A guy who said sorry for eating in front of me after finding out I had to skip breakfast. A guy who grew up across the street from me. A guy who plays guitar like me. A guy who was my first best friend."
He also, it turned out, has a girlfriend, whom Hannah described as "actually nice" and "pretty" with "an amazing figure." Pleading with the pop star, Hannah requested some feedback from her idol: "Can you give me some advice maybe," she wrote. "I love you."
The superstar chose to return the love, imparting some of her hard-won relationship wisdom upon the young fan. "Hannah. Eyes, eyes, eyes. Woah," Swift, 24, noted in Hannah's comments section. "You have the prettiest, widest, most child like eyes. (Composes herself)."
"Okay. About this guy," Swift wrote. "I think we grow up thinking the only love that counts as true love is the kind that lasts forever or is fully realized. When you have a broken heart, the first thing a stranger will ask is 'how long were you two together?' As if your pain can be determined by how long you were with someone. Or if you were with them at all. I don't think that's how it works."
"I think unrequited love is just as valid as any other kind," she mused. "It's just as crushing and just as thrilling. No matter what happens in this situation, I want you to remember that what you are doing is selfless and beautiful and kind. You are loving someone purely because you love them, not because you think you'll ever have your affections reciprocated. You are admiring something for its beauty, without needing to own it. Feel good about being the kind of person who loves selflessly. I think someday you'll find someone who loves you in that exact same way."
Hannah, touched by Swift's response, told the star: "You have no idea how much this means to me, thank you." The youngster added, "I feel like you're the big sister I don't have. Thank you, I really did need to hear that from you."