Bachelorette Jillian Harris: Jake Pavelka Should Pick Tenley
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Bachelorette couple Jilllian Harris and Ed Swiderski may be happily settled in Chicago and planning a wedding, but one issue continues to divide them: Harris is on Team Tenley, while Swiderski, 30, has a soft spot for bad girl Vienna.
Us: What are your thoughts on the women on this season's Bachelor?
ES: We had a chance to meet most of the girls, and I still take them at face value, yes I'm biased because I went through the ringer with you guys, but the truth is I read that stuff and I'm like she's [Vienna's] a normal person, she really is, yes she's gone through some weird stuff, she had some fun and whatever she did, but she's been pretty loyal to Jake as far as we know.
JH: The thing is everyone has a past, everyone was young and dumb at one point, everyone was vulnerable at one point, everyone has made mistakes, we all have our skeletons in the closet, and maybe she has more for whatever reason. If he picked her or if he picked any other girl, it doesn't even -- we hope that it will last, but in the grand scheme of things this is supposed to be fun and it's supposed to be light-hearted and there's so many more awful things in the world to stress out about. For me I just look at it and am like well she probably shouldn't have done all the bikini shoots and maybe shouldn't have signed up for the show but everybody is human and all those girls on the show deserve to find happiness. Not one of them is a vindictive awful bad person.
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Us: Having been on the show and talked to Jake, who's your preference?
JH: I've always thought Tenley was a good person for [Jake].
ES: They come off as the perfect couple I think because they're both religious, they're both praying to end up together. But who knows. Maybe Vienna is a better person than she's being portrayed. Ali I don't know, there's something about her that rubs me the wrong way. She was a bit too sassy for my liking. I think she was cute, a great-looking girl, great personality, intelligent but maybe she was a little too sassy. She left a little too easily I thought.
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Us: What advice would you give to Jake?
JH: It's so hard because as much as you say hang on tight, don't listen to what anyone says, lean on your friends and family, it's hard.
ES: It's got to be like one-on-one get through it together, otherwise you won't. you can't just say ignore it, it'll go away, because it's not going to go away. You have to learn how to deal with it and either improve your relationship or move on.
Us: Tell Us about your wedding plans.
JH: I feel bad that we don't have anything to report, but it really is legitimate. I think people think that we have this big secret hidden away. Some days we think let's just get married right now, I think we're ready, we know that we're the one for each other. But I think it's that we feel like we rushed so much, and I feel like a lot of the reason why we were trying to hit a certain date was because of our family and friends and fans, and I think we realized wait, our whole relationship has moved so fast because of outside forces. We just were like we need to take this into our own hands and move at the pace we want to.
ES: We want the right wedding. We want it to be a real, and we've gone through such an accelerated process that we at least want to do it right. We want our families to enjoy it, we don't want to rush anything else, we're really happy where we're at, and we want to take the time to do it right.
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Us: Would you do a televised wedding?
ES: We're going to use Molly [Malaney] and Jason [Mesnick] as a guinea pig, we're going to see how that goes down. We've gotten to know those guys.
JH: I talked to Trista, and I expected after all those years she'd say it was a pain in the ass, but no, this is incredible, she said it was the best in her life. Then I thought well the franchise has changed a bit since Trista's day. But then Molly was like it's been an incredible experience so far, and it's been really easy on her, so potentially. I think we both -- when I close my eyes and think about what our day is going to be, there are no cameras, it's just us and our family and friends. Then there's the more practical side of me that knows when I have to start writing those checks to put the deposit down on things -- and I think a lot of people don't realize we didn't make any money on the show. He did not make a dollar.
ES: I made zero dollars. I made $400 going on Ellen, for the record.
JH: So then I think -- I'm really practical with money, and I think it's super irresponsible to throw yourself into even $20,000 in debt, and you know you can spend $20,000 on a wedding. So then that's when I'm like babe, maybe we should do this whole televised wedding thing.
Us: What type of wedding do you want?
ES: I don't think it would be somewhere tropical, I don't want to say exotic, but not Chicago or Vancouver, maybe in the mountains or maybe somewhere on the West Coast, maybe somewhere in the Pacific Northwest area.
JH: My parents love the woods -- like Okanogan or Banff, or if it was going to be in the States like Montana, Oregon, somewhere a little earthy.
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Us: How big?
JH: I think we want lots of people, but it doesn't need to be elaborate. We're thinking -- I've always said gingham tablecloths and cabbage rolls and a big tub full of beer, maybe an 80s band. I want people to actually be able to come in jeans.
Us: Do you have a wedding dress designer in mind?
JH: Yes, I have. Ina Soltani. I really loved her designs. Alfred Angelo has some great dresses. What I would like to do is in the evening change into a different white dress that's like short and sweet and fun because he's really adamant that he would like me in a long dress.
ES: We were talking about you having two dresses.
JH: My girlfriends were like you're a short dress girl.
ES: Maybe one for the reception and one for the ceremony.
JH: You think guys don't care, and he doesn't really bring up a lot of things, like babe, look what I saw in that magazine.
ES: Tuesday night I'm not let's sit down and do wedding planning.
JH: But when I ask him, he definitely has an opinion.
Us: Are you getting all the bridal magazines?
JH: Yeah, I've been getting them and lots of Internet stuff, but I've been doing that since I was like 12.
Us: Do you have a dream honeymoon destination?
ES: We would definitely like to go to France or Italy.
Us: How many kids do you ultimately want?
ES: I'd say minimum of 2, max of 3.
JH: I was an only child, I don't know if I'd do it again. I find it harder when I'm an adult because my parents put so much pressure on me.
ES: You're going to be in showbiz, woman.
JH: My mom keeps on asking me I think your dad and I should buy a condo in Hawaii. I'm like I may be a very public person, but I still don't have any more money. If you want a condo in Hawaii, you'll have to buy that.
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23Jillian, your such an idiot for marrying that guy!! WHY???? I can't stand your smug little smile---you did not get a winner--oh well, you'll see for yourself. I give you around 5 years--you'll split.
Cali girl I'm sorry, but you've got to be kidding to bring up those "little" remarks Vienna said--they were not even a big deal--that was the nature of the show---what's hard to believe is how Ali made a public display of how irritated she was at the rose ceremony---NEVER SEEN A BACHELORETTE ACT AS CHILDISH AS THAT!! Ali is the one who "singled" Vienna out and inititated the ganging up tactic on her. what a little seroity girl!! Open your eyes for crying out loud!! Bachelorettes have always been competitive and make little remarks once in a while---all in good fun---but Ali was just plain "mean". Sounds like your not to bright of a person!!
Jake did make a "HUGE MISTAKE" if you go back and watch a few of the episodes Vienna was very jealous of Ali and a few other woman, when they were all sand bug riding and Ali said she wanted shot gun with Jake, Vienna made a comment let her have him now he's mine in the end. Also when he was with Gia by the campfire Vienna was spying on them in her video camera, totally childish and very jealous on her part, not to mention all the times she would interrupt when Jake was talking with the other girls on alone time she had no problem just walking in and breaking it, Ali got in her face on that because it was wrong not only did Ali say something to her but a few other girls did, Also when they were at the Winery she was sneaking around to find Jake & Gia which she did how desperate was that? Jake really needs to go back & look over the episodes again he should see for himself how rude Vienna the tramp was totally disrespectful to the other girls..One can only believe certain rumors in the tabloids but when you see it with your own two eyes you know there real not made up, like her topless Pics, Hooters day's, the cruise ship drunken guy's and much more, Truth be it her actions speak louder than her words..She's typical immature and self-centered spoiled little Daddy's Brat. I'm glad Ali, Gia & Tenly and all the other girls got out..PS Jake go back and LOOK real close at her actions then you'll see what the girls were talking about, but then again you two deserve each other by the looks of it your not much better..He is very immature himself and thinks his TV career will go far his time is almost up I can't wait until I can turn on my TV and NOT see either one of them anymore, I doubt he is even a Pilot anymore, after all he stole from his business partner as well..Is it really worth the $ over the rest of your life get real..
Jillian, you and Ed are the last ones to be giving advice. You chose a cheat, and he's a jerk stringing along two women while he waa dating you!
Of course Ed likes Vienna. It only confirms the suspicions that he's a loser and he did in fact cheat on Jillian. Jillian has an ounce of a brain since she likes Tenley but she needs to face the truth about Ed.
Wow so many experts here who think they know every thing about a couple they clearly don't even like. (Jessica you are not included in this group, I totally agree with you, from their first date, both Jill and Ed were goners, the other guys being there was just a formality) To the rest of you, if ya don't like them I have a very easy solution for ya, one that is so easy my cousins four year old can comprehend it, if ya don't like em' don't read or comment about them.
Well Jillian should be the last person to be asked for an advice. I'm sick and tired of these two stupid ones, Jilian and Edd. Let Jillian face the truth some day. Anyway, she is so desperate to get married until she lost her mind. Enough for these two. They deserve each other.
Why would anyone go to Jillian for advice on the bachelor? she picked this loser who obviously cheated on her. he's in it for the spotlight. i thought she was smarter than this. wake up jillian, if you and ed do get married, he will be a cheater. when the spotlight goes away, so will his feelings toward you. if he even has real feelings for you.
FIRST OF ALL JILLIAN MADE A BIG MISTAKE CHOOSING ED OVER JAKE TO START WITH AND LOOK WHO ED IS FOR. IMAGINE THAT! AND IF JAKE DOES CHOOSE VIENNA I FEEL SORRY FOR HIM. I AM NOT A ARM CHAIR QUATERBACK. I LOVE THE SHOW AND CARE ABOUT PEOPLES FEELINGS.
Ed will never marry her. Keep dreaming, Jill!
SHE MADE THE WRONG CHOICE FOR YOU POEPLE BUT A BRILLIANT CHOICE FOR HER!!!!.
I'm still hoping for Ali. They have great chemistry together.
I don't believe he picks either of F2. He should go and pursue Ali. He really cares for her.
Ed I thought you did the same thing when you were on the Bachelorette....YOU LEFT ALSO..SO where do you get off saying that about Ali......LOOK IN THE MIRROR!!!!
Listen to all the arm chair quaterbacks who THINK they know what is good for Jillian and still won't accept her choice in Ed. I laugh at the comments as though you are on a first name basis with any of these people.
Why am I not surprised that loser Ed likes Vienna??? He should steal her from Jake then and leave Jillian to find someone better.
Love how Ed said that Ali left too easily...didn't he ALSO leave the show to go back to his job.
She has no money? Please. She made AT LEAST $90K to be on the Bachelorette and that was just for 2-3 months of work. I cannot believe she's going to marry Ed. He's cheated on her before, and he'll do it again.
There is nothing appealing about these two as a couple. The underlying theme seems to be greed - it's all about the money. Ed would pick Vienna, wouldn't he? Ha.
Who would listen to any advice from either one of them? Look who she picked a cheating loser. When their 15 mins are up Ed will go bye bye...