Lesson of 2016: Never, ever remark on a woman’s bump size. Australian Instagram fitness star Daegen Coyne is 31 weeks pregnant, and some of her followers apparently don’t think her belly is big enough.
“I have had pregnant friends called out for being ‘too big’, others ‘far too muscly’ and myself, the ‘you’re way to small,’” Coyne wrote in a July 5 Instagram. “Given I am yet to see one lady carry their pregnancy shape and size the same as another, I believe it’s safe to assume peeps that there is no ‘one size fits all’ pregnancy.”
The 30-year-old and her exercise physiologist and sports nutritionist husband, Joseph, will welcome their first child, a baby girl, in early September.
“The majority of my comments have not been negative,” Coyne tells Us Weekly. “I have, however, had a few ill-informed comments from strangers on social media stating that I ‘made them sick’ given I was ‘putting my baby’s health at risk’ due to my size. Others are commenting that I am being ‘superficial.’” (For the record, Coyne has gained 22 pounds.)
Though the petite blonde tells Us she has a “thick skin,” the remarks did get to her. “This was when my obstetrician appointments weren’t as regular as now, so I wasn’t able to ask heaps of questions,” she says. “When someone is telling you that you are far too small, then you do worry. Needless to say, my professional team and my husband are all 100 percent satisfied that my baby girl is extremely and strong. She is average in size.”
BUMP ???I have had pregnant friends called out for being "too big", others "far too muscly" and myself, the "you're way too small". ??Given I am yet to see one lady carry their pregnancy shape and size the same as another, I believe it's safe to assume peeps that there is no "one size fits all" pregnancy. ???? . I know heaps of the comments aren't meant to be hurtful or upsetting by any means, but we all have enough to worry about being a new mum (omg scary) let alone whether you are the size you are "expected" to be. ?PS. I don't think anyone even knows what this size is. I've been told one day I am carrying really high and the next "wow you are carrying so low" haha. ?? . Bubba is in fact above average size for at 30 weeks, I am just good at hiding her ??? #bumplove
Coyne isn’t the first Instagram fitness star from Australia to be bump shamed. Her friend Revie Jane Schulz spoke out about being bullied for her large tummy, while pal Chontel Duncan grabbed headlines in March after posing tummy-to-tummy with her friend Nat, who was four weeks further along in her pregnancy.
Me at #24Weeks and I looked like a lot of people's full term ? I know a lot of you babes on here are mama's to be so here is a throwback for you. I posted this after so many comments were thrown my way for having a massive bump. I was so fed up, even when I had tried on this dress and the shop assistant said "Holy moly! My friend is 36 weeks and you're only 24 weeks and you're WAY bigger than her!" She repeated this to the lady in the next changing room to me. I cried while I tried the dress on. I got it everywhere I went and it did make me want to hide away. It's tough, you're carrying a human, your body is dramatically changing, more than you ever expected and then to rub salt in it, strangers feel the need to comment every time you're out in public. Here's a tip, don't mention the size of a bump. No "you're so big!'s" No "oh! You're so tiny!'s" Just say something like "you look beautiful/ healthy/ amazing!" ? • • • REPOST • • • "Oh babe, wait, my hair!" Turned into a nice profile shot of baby. Now before you ask, I'm 24 Weeks and before you compare your bump to mine, or hers to mine, or whatever, remember we're all totally, respectfully different. Yes, there is just one in there. Yes, I have my dates right. I'm just amazing at growing a big human ? no matter what size, remember this, you're creating a miracle. Some of you have asked when we're finding out gender and the answer is, when we meet him or her! ?? Love xo #reviejanesbump #24weeks #24weekspregnant #mybump #stylishbump #mamatobe #pregnancy Ps Dress is from @dissh_boutiques
“We need to think before we speak,” Coyne tells Us. “Far too many of the negative comments come from those who are uninformed and uneducated on the issue. A healthy and active pregnancy is a good thing! Pregnancy is emotional enough, no need to add to the pressures. Leave the advice for the professionals.”