Scott Weiland's ex-wife has written an emotional letter on Rolling Stone magazine's website, urging fans not to glorify her former husband's death, and revealing her children lost their father long before he died.
Mary Fosberg-Weiland, who married the late Stone Temple Pilots frontman in May 2000 and had two children with him (Noah, 15, and Lucy, 13), co-wrote the article with her kids.
While Weiland passed away last Thursday, Mary says that she and her children had lost the musician long before that. "The truth is, like so many other kids, they lost their father years ago," she wrote, via Rolling Stone. "What they truly lost on December 3rd was hope."
"This is the final step in our long goodbye to Scott," she continued. "Even though I felt we had no other choice, maybe we never should have let him go. Or maybe these last few years of separation were his parting gift to us – the only way he could think to soften what he knew would one day crush us deep into our souls."
"I won't say he can rest now, or that he's in a better place," she added. "He belongs with his children barbecuing in the backyard and waiting for a Notre Dame game to come on. We are angry and sad about this loss, but we are most devastated that he chose to give up."
She urges any other parents in similar situations to keep trying ("progress, not perfection, is what your children are praying for," she added). Most of all, however, she encourages his fans not to glorify his death, but instead to look at their own lives and make sure they're doing everything they can so their own children don't suffer as hers did.
"Let's choose to make this the first time we don't glorify this tragedy with talk of rock and roll and the demons that, by the way, don't have to come with it," she went on. "Skip the depressing T-shirt with 1967-2015 on it – use the money to take a kid to a ballgame or out for ice cream."
The entire letter can be read here.
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