Experts Say Tiger Woods' Wife Shouldn't Leave Him Just Yet
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Should she stay or should she go?
TMZ reports Tuesday that Elin Nordegren has returned to her Windermere, Fla. home. Keeping her company: twin sister Josefin and their mother Barbro Holmberg (who was in and out of the hospital Tuesday morning due to apparent stomach pains). Elin's embattled husband Tiger Woods, meanwhile, is reportedly "nowhere in sight."
As the list of 33 year-old Woods' alleged mistresses -- and shocking stories -- grows daily, many are urging Nordegren, 29, to divorce her billionaire golfer husband of 5 years. The couple has two children: daughter Sam, two, and son Charlie, 10 months.
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Usmagazine.com spoke to several experts about Elin Nordegren's potential next steps. None of them advised the wife and mother to immediately pack her things and leave with the kids.
Dr. Michelle Callahan, psychologist, host of Fox TV's recent reality show Wedlock or Deadlock and author of Ms.Typed:
"The situation is very heightened right now; nobody usually has to make this kind of an important decision under the direct pressure of literally the whole world talking about you. She might want to wait how much farther this story really plays itself out before she starts to make her move...It's important for her to protect herself emotionally. I'm sure her friends are in her ears, her family's in her ears. And I'm sure she has Tiger trying to tell her what he thinks she should do. She really needs some space to hear her own voice and understand whether or not this is something she wants to be a part of."
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Ruth Houston, infidelity expert, author of Is He Cheating On You: 822 Tell-tale Signs:
"It looks very much like Tiger Woods may be a sex addict. If he is, then she may want to hang in there with him and help him get treatment. You need to have several conversations with the cheater in order to make an intelligent decision about whether to go or to stay. She needs to find out exactly what the truth is. And he needs to level with her and be honest. If he is emotionally attached to one of these women who claim to be involved with him, then that presents an entirely different situation. But she won't know that without discussing the situation with him. We're not excusing the infidelity at all -- it comes down to a personal choice. It's more difficult for a person who's a sex addict, but it still boils down to one little word with two letters in it: No. Two letters, one syllable, easy to pronounce. It has nothing to do with anything she did or didn't do."
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Dr. David Schnarch, psychologist, sex and marital therapist, author of Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship:
"She's going to have to realize that there's a big hole in her radar, and that she has not been able to see her husband accurately. This is the time where people not only renegotiate their prenuptial agreements -- they also renegotiate the balance in their relationship. This is also where we'll get to see Elin's stripes. If she's a trophy wife, she stays and she beats Tiger to death with his affairs for the rest of his life. If she is one of these people who may have married money and status but really wants to have a family life, now is where you make that move for yourself ... Tiger's going to be saying that he violated the values, but the real question here is, what are his real values? Elin is in a very common position for women who have married to wealthy guys: the rest of the world is telling you and telling Tiger that he walks on water, that he can do no wrong... Elin's job is to take the air out of his head, get his feet on the ground and hold him responsible for keeping up to his end of the marriage and the family."
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100The experts' opinions are meaningless when it comes to the reality of dealing with stds and health problems. To stay would be self-destructive and endanger both the innocent partner and offspring.
I agree,Elin has to realize that she needs to try hard for the sake of the kids this childrens needs one more chance to have a father a normal life. Tiger needs to grow up and realize that family is the most importat thing in the world besides money,and friends. I hope that God help them to get true this tragedy in their life.
You are all idiots. You eat up everything the media feeds you, yet none of you know ANYTHING about what really went on. Elin is no saint. In fact, those who know her, and have witnessed her in private around Tiger have found her to be quite the snobby, stuck up, "tight-legged" (from one friend on the PGA Tour), b*tch (especially if she doesn't get her way). She married for money and is a typical gold digger. You need look no further than her immediate demand for 5 million dollars to not leave him immediately, and then had them change the prenup by knocking 10 years down to 7, and the amount she gets up from 20 million to 75 million. So basically, she took this opportunity and only stayed because she wanted the extra 60 million after all is said and done. What kind of wife who actually loves their husband stays for money, unless that is the only reason she was married to him in the first place. She isn't poor, and she would have gotten 2million for leaving him immediately, if thats what she wanted, or she could have stayed and worked it out based on her love for him and her family. However, when she puts a "only if you give me 60 million dollars" after it, it shows you she would have left her husband and family without even trying to fix things unless she got her way (more money in this case - just what a gold digger is after). Somehow though, despite the fact that she wasn't satisfying Tiger in the sexual department, treated him like crap, and is obviously guilty of spousal abuse (a case in which Tiger acted so admirably by running away instead of knocking her out [do you really think the 6'2, 190 pound Tiger would have any trouble handling a 125 pound Elin?]), yet she is being treated as if she is a huge victim and a saint. You're all idiots. By the way, she is never going to get half, and because of her b*tchy attitude, I know Tiger has pretty much given up trying because she continues to try to physically attack him and curse at him when they are in the same room, so HE is going to DIVORCE HER, ending her hopes of getting that 75, and will have to settle for 2. He should have known she was a gold digger the whole time. Also, Jesper Parnevik had better watch his back after the comments he made. We all know people who say bad things about Tiger have a history of of him getting even in some way. He should dump her gold digging a*s as fast as possible (his father was divorced [twice], no big deal) and get back to golfing, and then he can have sex with whoever he wants.
You are all idiots. You eat up everything the media feeds you, yet none of you know ANYTHING about what really went on. Elin is no saint. In fact, those who know her, and have witnessed her in private around Tiger have found her to be quite the snobby, stuck up, "tight-legged" (from one friend on the PGA Tour), b*tch (especially if she doesn't get her way). She married for money and is a typical gold digger. You need look no further than her immediate demand for 5 million dollars to not leave him immediately, and then had them change the prenup by knocking 10 years down to 7, and the amount she gets up from 20 million to 75 million. So basically, she took this opportunity and only stayed because she wanted the extra 60 million after all is said and done. What kind of wife who actually loves their husband stays for money, unless that is the only reason she was married to him in the first place. She isn't poor, and she would have gotten 2million for leaving him immediately, if thats what she wanted, or she could have stayed and worked it out based on her love for him and her family. However, when she puts a "only if you give me 60 million dollars" after it, it shows you she would have left her husband and family without even trying to fix things unless she got her way (more money in this case - just what a gold digger is after). Somehow though, despite the fact that she wasn't satisfying Tiger in the sexual department, treated him like crap, and is obviously guilty of spousal abuse (a case in which Tiger acted so admirably by running away instead of knocking her out [do you really think the 6'2, 190 pound Tiger would have any trouble handling a 125 pound Elin?]), yet she is being treated as if she is a huge victim and a saint. You're all idiots. By the way, she is never going to get half, and because of her b*tchy attitude, I know Tiger has pretty much given up trying because she continues to try to physically attack him and curse at him when they are in the same room, so HE is going to DIVORCE HER, ending her hopes of getting that 75, and will have to settle for 2. He should have known she was a gold digger the whole time. Also, Jesper Parnevik had better watch his back after the comments he made. We all know people who say bad things about Tiger have a history of of him getting even in some way. He should dump her gold digging a*s as fast as possible (his father was divorced [twice], no big deal) and get back to golfing, and then he can have sex with whoever he wants.
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I am wondering if Tiger knows how much this has tarnished our opinion of him or if his "team" is keeping this from him. I thought he was wonderful but as soon as I heard that he said negative things about his wife, I dislike him intensly. There is more to adultery than sex, telling someone negative things about the person you married is worse.
Perfection is an illusion, and Tiger has been walking a tight rope for a very long time. Is it any surprise that he chose a route to explode? This is a time for the couple to share, ask questions, get answeres, be honest and evaluate. They will be responsible to themselves, each other and to the children. Transition can be a powerful force for good or not, this should be a personal decision, not one for the public to judge. As much as we may all want quick results, this may well be a time when time and quiet reflection may be the best course. All of the above of course is predicated on the premisis that the foundation was one of love and respect.
?Elin's job is to take the air out of his head, get his feet on the ground and hold him responsible for keeping up to his end of the marriage and the family." That is wrong. It is not her responsibility to keep her husband responsible. He is an adult, let him make the changes if he so wants. Her only responsibility at this time is for herself and her children.
How come when a man's a hibitual cheater he is always a sex addict yet a woman who cheats is just a s*ut, s*ank or wh*re? Seriously call him what he is a manwh*re. Sex addict yeah call Dr. Drew.
Divorce is a personal and most often painful decision. Celebrities, sports figures, and their spouses may function with funds that are out of reach for most - but the emotion is still the same. So much of the media looks at this possible divorce as a game with points - points equaling money. I truly believe that neither one of these people, or couples in general, marry to make money. Perhaps we can leave them in peace, so that each can figure out what they want from one another, their future, and how that will impact their family.
Ha! Easy for someone who was not exposed to STD's while pregnant to say! And I don't buy that sex addict crap! He probably was like that before he dated her, while he dated her, and obviously when he was married to her. she was his trophy wife, a perfect woman to give birth and raise his offspring and give him a great public image which he profited on. Once a cheater, always a cheater!
Each of these "experts" would be racing out the door if it was revealed that their spouse's had a dozen long-term relationships, sex through pregnancy, sex in their homes, unprotected sex, etc. Each "expert" wants to appear oh so rational and neutral in the hope of landing one of the cheaters as a client. Give us a break.
Women stop marrying the atheletes, you know this is what they are doing cheating. There should be a contract for all atheletes DO NOT MARRY!!! why in the world wuld these women think that there husbands are faithful? No! You put yourself in the situation of marring a celebrity, atheletes, etc, and this is what they like to do screw around with other women. Elin really should have thought about that. Tiger have to much money to be with just one woman.He should now be called hugh heffner the 2nd.
He's not addicted but I guess that is just as good of excuse as any since you professional doctor's out there keep giving him all these great idea's to get out of his affair's. He has no sex addition just being Tiger who is easily bored and like's to take it to the next level and live life on the edge. He like's the challenge and excitement of it all. What Tiger is an adulter and if he even thought he was a sex addict he would of pulled this ammunition out long before now to save his name and his fortune. Noticed I did'nt mention marriage because I think that is just a roost to Tiger for appearance's. Sure he love's his wife and children but I think he love's his wife for all the wrong reasons. It is more of a business agreement to him. These are Tiger's priorities: #1-golf#2-money#3-image#4-women because he think's he deserve's it#5-public opinion#6-family!!! All in a nut shell ha-ha head doc's anyway he is a adultor not a sex addict!!
It wouldn't surprise me if Tiger's people come out saying that she agreed to him sleeping with other women as long as it stayed under wraps. Then it would make her look bad. His father is probably just spinning in his grave!
Living the dream!!!
Tigers no sex addict. Hes an egomaniac idiot who has never worked a day in his life. If you have been hitting golf balls since you were 2 years old every day, you too could be a great golfer. This guy is a bum, period.
Sexual addiction is not treatable. Yes, psychotherapists will take your money and "treat" you for it, but the research shows that there are no lasting effects from such therapy. The wife needs to leave, she needs to be checked for STD's, AIDS, and whatever else he may have given her. She needs to clean him out and take half of everything he's earned while she stayed home, bore and raised his children. She needs a new life and she needs for Tiger to not be a part of it.
SELF RESPECT!!!! whether or not she forgives him means nothing. If she has any self respect she would know that she deserves to not be treated like that. Life so short... I would hate to be on this earth knowing that the partner I chose for me is placing me and our children secondary to his needs/wants. Even if she is not a jealous person how can she ever trust him again? You can't buy trust or love with money.
Of course everyone is going to find some sort of psychological excuse to why he did what he did. There is no disease here, he has no disorder. We are simply trying to excuse another celebrities behavior. If your own husband cheats you won't come up with some medical reason why he did this. It is all a load of crap, he has all the money in the world and can fly his wife whereever he needs to if he were an addict and needs it all the time. He is just another over-priviledged d@uchebag knowing women will throw themselves at him and so he takes it..