Jennifer Lopez Talks Split: Marc Anthony Wasn't "Good for" Me
The silence has been broken.
Just over two weeks since she and Marc Anthony announced their split after seven years of marriage, Jennifer Lopez opens up in the August issue of Vanity Fair.
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"That was my biggest dream, and I really worked hard at it. We both did," Lopez, 42, says of her failed union with Anthony, also 42.
Continues the singer, actress, designer and American Idol judge: "Sometimes it doesn't work--and that's sad. But I remain an eternal optimist about love. I believe in love."
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It was the third marriage for Lopez and the second for singer Anthony; the couple share 3-year-old twins Max and Emme.
Will she try again at love? You bet. "It's still my biggest dream," she says. "I am positive--determined to move forward with my life, bring up my babies, and do the best job I can as a mother, entertainer, and person. I now look forward to new challenges. I feel strong."
Adds the star, whose pre-Anthony loves famously included P. Diddy, Ben Affleck and others: "I'm a hopeless romantic and passionate person when it comes to love."
Although she doesn't get into specific about her rocky romance with Anthony , whom multiple insiders have described as frequently controlling and jealous, the single-again Lopez sounds triumphant. "It's not that I didn't love myself before," she confides.
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"Sometimes we don't realize that we are compromising ourselves. To understand that a person is not good for you, or that that person is not treating you in the right way, or that he is not doing the right thing for himself--if I stay, then I am not doing the right thing for me. I love myself enough to walk away from that now," she declares.
But things are not bitter with Anthony, she insists.
"I will always respect Marc as a singer and performer," she says. "We actually work great together, and he was always very supportive. Together we could make magic-—and we did. He will always be in our lives. He will always hold a special place in my heart as the father of my children."
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23I don't care what anyone says, I LOVE Jennifer! If your not happy with someone, & he don't treat u right even if u have children the children will suffer when parents don't get along. o i give credit to any woman who makes that choise. GO JRNNIFER!!!!!
@Victoria..you bring up a good point now that I think about. I wasn't thinking of it that way but I do believe part of her split from Marc is the fact that she is starting to get recognition again. She started seeing him when her career began to fizzle. But now that she is back in the spolight, all of a sudden she is getting a divorce. Same thing happened with her and her first husband if you all think about it.
I understand her, it's possible to fall in love with a man that is not good for you. One of things she couldn't stand to see is Marc's smoking, which is killing him and not good for his children's lungs or hers. He should have made an effort to quit. I know I couldn't live with that either. I hope the best for both of them. It's sad that it didn't work out. I hope for the best for their children too.
Jennifer is no more trashier than people who believe that it's more human to save an animal but have a nerve to be pro-baby killing. Get off her ass about it. I'd rather she kill an animal than a baby, which I'm sure she has done in which case, at least she's not a hypocrite. What makes Jennifer a trashy ass loser is the way she uses men to boost her career taking stops in between every once in a while to hook up with a nobody. Diddy (when she wanted to jump kick her music career and he was the hottest producer and a mega link to the black community); (Affleck when she was trying to live that Hollywood A-List Whitebread existence); Marc when both the black, whites, and non-white Hispanics were like bye girl and she needed to reclaim her Latina roots. Puhlease. I used to like J. Lo but I have never slept on her game. EVAH.
Maybe she should stop believing in love.
Pls this girl is a fake. Nothing but a demanding diva trying to look like the good one out of the relationship. She's skank and so is Marc Anthony! They both deserved each other.
She hooked up with Marc when he was a married man, so why should anyone expect the marriage to work out for her? What starts out bad, ends bad.
Love her!! She is what American Idol needed!!! Don't know why she married that man in the first place!! I never cared for him.
@lexi, i don't really think she cares whether she has your sympathy or not. did she say that's what she was looking for? she did an interview and answered questions she was asked. if you don't like what she has to say, don't read an article about her. apparently all celebrities should stay single because you think they should all just give up. why does your opinion matter to them? it's their lives, they can do whatever they want. it's their feelings they have to deal with, not yours.
Wow@ Kristy Bates wow.. and WTF????
I just paid $23,98 for an iPad2-64GB and my girlfriend loves her Panasonic Lumix GF 1 Camera that we got for $37,59 there arriving tomorrow by UPS. I will never pay such expensive retail prices in stores again. Especially when I also sold a 40 inch LED TV to my boss for $677 which only cost me $72,13 to buy. Here is the website we use to get it all from, -->CentBite. çom,
I just paid $23,98 for an iPad2-64GB and my girlfriend loves her Panasonic Lumix GF 1 Camera that we got for $37,59 there arriving tomorrow by UPS. I will never pay such expensive retail prices in stores again. Especially when I also sold a 40 inch LED TV to my boss for $677 which only cost me $72,13 to buy. Here is the website we use to get it all from, -->CentBite.çom
I just paid $23,98 for an iPad2-64GB and my girlfriend loves her Panasonic Lumix GF 1 Camera that we got for $37,59 there arriving tomorrow by UPS. I will never pay such expensive retail prices in stores again. Especially when I also sold a 40 inch LED TV to my boss for $677 which only cost me $72,13 to buy. Here is the website we use to get it all from, -->CentBite.çom
@ August 02, 2011 - 11:40am Kristy Bates That's untrue and disgusting. You sound like a real perverted woman. You probably have kiddie porn on your computer. TRASH.
*yawn*
Does she love anal electrocution because that's how the animals die whose fur she insists on wearing. Trash.
So true, Rosemarie. Is the only way we can be rid of her is to get rid of American Idol. She is nauseating.
I'm sorry, but I feel no sympathy for her. Celebs are so lazy it's unreal. They don't want to work at anything, except their jobs. God forbid marriage be WORK or hard. One little fight and BOOM- Throw in the towel. I think Jennifer should just STOP getting married. This was what? Number 3? 4? Just give up already.
When you have a failing marriage, sometimes you have to step outside "the box" to analyze the situation. Kudos to her for having the strength to do just that and the spirit to truly love her self.
@Isabel: That made me wanna puke.