‘Bachelor’ Alum Ashley Spivey Reveals She Suffered a Miscarriage: ‘It Was Not Meant to Be’

Sharing her story. Ashley Spivey revealed she recently suffered a miscarriage in an emotional Instagram post.

“I found out VERY early that I was pregnant,” the Bachelor alum, 34, wrote alongside a sonogram shot on Thursday, May 16. “I took a test before the end of my missed period bc Steve [Hunsberger] and I were trying and Steve was sure that I was (bc i had been very emotional for the previous week). He was correct on both points. However, in terms of my body, I in no way felt pregnant. If we weren’t trying, I would have thought that my period was just late from traveling.”

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For the past couple of weeks, you might have noticed a lot of pro-choice and pro-abortion viewpoints on my account. What you may not know (my close family and friends did) is that I was pregnant. I found out VERY early that I was pregnant. I took a test before the end of my missed period bc Steve and I were trying and Steve was sure that I was (bc i had been very emotional for the previous week). He was correct on both points. However, in terms of my body, I in no way felt pregnant. If we weren’t trying, I would have thought that my period was just late from traveling 🤷🏼‍♀️ I couldn’t even see my doctor until I was 6 weeks pregnant, and even then we left the doctors office in shock that what was showing up on the ultrasound was what legislators are fighting over in these so called “heartbeat” bills and bans. Don’t get me wrong. This was a very wanted pregnancy. Steve and I are both ready for a family. However, it was not meant to be this time. While the doctor spotted the fetal pole cardiac activity at 6 weeks, on Monday (8 weeks) with my sis and Steve in the room we received some bad news – the embryo actually had shrunk and the doctor concluded that I was experiencing a miscarriage. This is not a post for sympathy. Miscarriages are common and I know the stats. I feel grateful to live in state that will not question me about my miscarriage or launch an investigation into what exactly caused me to miscarry, and possibly prosecute me if i did something that unknowingly caused the miscarriage. I feel grateful that I could choose not to prolong this miscarriage and have a d&c procedure. I feel grateful that my doctor can not be prosecuted for helping me to rid myself of my miscarriage. These bans are not just about abortions – they will also affect women who suffer miscarriages. None of this is ok. I have had an abortion and I have had a miscarriage. I have bodily autonomy and the women of this country deserve the same. Donate your time, effort, and money to organizations like @prochoiceamerica @yellowfund @plannedparenthood @whoohio @napawf @aclu_nationwide if you are just as scared and pissed off as I am. Continued below…

A post shared by Ashley Spivey (@ashleyspivey) on May 16, 2019 at 2:26pm PDT

The former reality star added: “This was a very wanted pregnancy. Steve and I are both ready for a family. However, it was not meant to be this time. While the doctor spotted the fetal pole cardiac activity at 6 weeks, on Monday (8 weeks) with my sis and Steve in the room we received some bad news — the embryo actually had shrunk and the doctor concluded that I was experiencing a miscarriage.”

In response to the six-week abortion ban passed by Georgia, Ohio, Mississippi, Kentucky, Iowa and North Dakota, the former ABC personality went on to write, “I feel grateful that I could choose not to prolong this miscarriage and have a d&c procedure. I feel grateful that my doctor can not be prosecuted for helping me to rid myself of my miscarriage. … I have had an abortion and I have had a miscarriage. I have bodily autonomy and the women of this country deserve the same.”

Fellow Bachelor alum Bekah Martinez showed her support on the social media post, commenting, “Thank you so much for sharing.” Martinez and her boyfriend, Grayston Leonard, welcomed daughter Ruth in February.

Spiver, who competed for Brad Womack’s heart on season 15 of the hit show, married Hunsberger in May 2016 in North Carolina.

“Marrying this babe today,” she wrote on Instagram at the time. “Can’t believe the day is finally here!”