Sexting … in heels! Kristin Cavallari sat down with Steve Harvey to discuss her new book, Balancing in Heels, in which she reveals some of the sexy ways she keeps in touch with her husband, Jay Cutler, when they’re apart.
In her book, the Laguna Beach alum, 29, details some tips in a section called “Staying Connected When You’re Apart.” Cavallari writes: “Even not being together can be meaningful if you make an effort. I actually love traveling for work because it makes me miss Jay. I can’t wait to see him. I get excited to come home and hug him after being gone for a couple of days. I still get butterflies in my stomach.”
The shoe designer goes on to share that they “video call each other constantly” and “send sexy pictures,” though Cavallari says that she “always” cuts her head out of photos. Finally, she writes: “I’ve been known to sext from time to time. Gotta do whatcha gotta do! Even if it means you are doing five other things at the same time and just going along with it for your man.”
Naturally, that bit from her loaded book blew up. Cavallari addressed it with Harvey in her interview, which airs Thursday, April 14. Laughing, she quipped: “Yeah, I made the mistake of mentioning that in my book. And now that’s all anyone wants to talk about! Imagine that! This is a little secret and now Jay’s gonna know, but half the time, I’m doing other stuff. I’m doing my nails, I’m folding laundry, and then I’ll kind of do a little text.”
She also discussed couples’ therapy and how it’s helped salvage their relationship. As previously reported, Cavallari and Cutler memorably split during their engagement, which she detailed in her book and once again brought up in her sit-down with Harvey.
“We moved vey quickly: We got engaged after eight months, and then we actually broke up about two and a half, three months later. Called off the engagement,” she recalled. “And then we got back together, and when we got back together, I kind of went through a little phase where I didn’t know if I wanted to get married. I think it was really more about my ego, I had one foot in and one foot out and that was ridiculous. And if we were gonna be together and really give it a shot, that wasn’t fair. So, I decided to grow up, I guess.”
Part of growing up includes working through their issues. Cavallari, who shares three kids with Cutler (Camden, 3, Jaxon, 23 months, and Saylor, 4 months), explained why she’s so open about going to therapy.
“I think it’s important for people to know that there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship, you know? We work on it,” she told Harvey. “It’s true. We love each other and we want to make it work, but I 100 percent credit our therapist for saving our relationship. We’ve come so far being in therapy both individually and together as a couple, that it’s been incredibly beneficial.”
Watch the videos above for more on her book and her marriage.