Former New York Yankees pitcher Carl Pavano is accused of peeing in his ex-wife’s shampoo bottles and soiling her bed as part of a campaign of “significant abuse and coercive control.”
Carl, 50, and Alissa Pavano finalized their divorce in December 2025 after 14 years of marriage, but court documents obtained by CT Insider show a host of legal spats between the two. The docs detail a custody battle for their three children, a prenuptial agreement that Alissa contends she was pressured to sign and a restraining order that Alissa is seeking against Carl.
With police being called to their shared residence in Fairfield, Connecticut nine times since 2024, according to CT Insider, Alissa has repeatedly accused Carl of destructive and abusive behavior.
In an application for relief from physical abuse, submitted by Alissa on May 1, she claims Carl’s behavior had escalated to the point that she no longer felt safe at their residence.
Another affidavit shows Alissa accusing Carl of sending her a photo after she served him with divorce papers in 2024 “that showed multiple firearms laid out on the kitchen table” of the home with the caption “hold the fort.”
An additional filing claims Carl urinated in Alissa’s shampoo bottles and “intentionally soiled the bed in which Plaintiff sleeps during her parenting time by having his female sex partners occupy the bed.” He then allegedly “removed all clean linens from the house so that Plaintiff is unable to have a hygienically clean and safe bed during her parenting time.”
They currently share custody of their kids on alternating weeks at the Fairfield home. The agreement will stay in place until Carl buys Alissa a $1 million house of her own. Alissa is requesting that Carl be removed from the house “and that I be given exclusive possession until I move into the new home to which I am entitled.”
She has also accused Carl of vandalizing her property, including installing a keyless lock on a bedroom meant solely for her use, preventing her from accessing it. A hearing regarding the restraining order was scheduled for last week, but was postponed at Alissa’s request and will now be held in November.
The accusations come against the backdrop of a prenup that Alissa is seeking to invalidate despite a judge ruling it valid during divorce proceedings.
“Plaintiff signed the agreement in the face of Defendant’s controlling behavior and threats to leave Plaintiff destitute and ‘alone,’ without her children unless she signed his unilaterally drafted prenuptial agreement,” Alissa’s lawyers wrote in a brief. “The trial court decided not to invalidate the prenuptial agreement because it erroneously focused on the videotaped signing after Plaintiff had a $500 consultation with her attorney.”
Carl’s team now has until Friday, May 15 to respond with a brief of their own. Us Weekly has reached out to his lawyers for comment.
