Myka Stauffer’s Quotes About Adoption Journey, Relationship With Son Huxley Before Rehoming

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Myka Stauffer’s Quotes About Adoption Journey, Relationship With Son Huxley Before Rehoming

Her story. Myka Stauffer received backlash in May 2020 when she revealed her decision to rehome her adopted son with autism, but she was transparent about the process long before the controversy. The YouTube star documented her journey on her channel, sharing details about everything from Huxley’s diagnosis to her desire to adopt more children. She seemed honest and open about the ins and outs of the ordeal. Stauffer and her husband, James Stauffer, announced in May 2020 that they gave Huxley to a “new mommy” in a “forever home” three years after his adoption from China. “Once Huxley came home, there were a lot more special needs that we weren’t aware of and that we were not told. So over the past few years, Huxley has been in numerous therapies to try and help him with all of his needs. Over the last year has been the more intense therapy to try and help him as much as possible,” he explained in a YouTube video. “For us, it’s been really hard hearing from the medical professionals. A lot of their feedback [has been] really upsetting for us, because it’s not what we ever wanted to hear. We never wanted to be in this position, and we’ve been trying to get his needs met and help him out as much as possible.” [jwplayer GNltMCxC] Myka, for her part, insisted the couple could not provide for their son. “There’s not an ounce of our body that doesn’t love Huxley with all of our being. There wasn’t a minute that [we] didn’t try our hardest,” she said. “And I think what Jim is trying to say is that after multiple assessments, after multiple evaluations, numerous medical professionals have felt that he needed a different fit and that [with] his medical needs, he needed more.” The internet personality, who shares four other children with her husband, added: “Do I feel like a failure as a mom? Like, 500 percent. … It’s not about me at all, but … the last couple of months have been the hardest thing I could’ve ever imagined.” Scroll down to revisit Myka’s quotes about the adoption process and Huxley.

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Myka Stauffer’s Quotes About Adoption Journey, Relationship With Son Huxley Before Rehoming

Her story. Myka Stauffer received backlash in May 2020 when she revealed her decision to rehome her adopted son with autism, but she was transparent about the process long before the controversy. The YouTube star documented her journey on her channel, sharing details about everything from Huxley’s diagnosis to her desire to adopt more children. She seemed honest and open about the ins and outs of the ordeal. Stauffer and her husband, James Stauffer, announced in May 2020 that they gave Huxley to a “new mommy” in a “forever home” three years after his adoption from China. “Once Huxley came home, there were a lot more special needs that we weren’t aware of and that we were not told. So over the past few years, Huxley has been in numerous therapies to try and help him with all of his needs. Over the last year has been the more intense therapy to try and help him as much as possible,” he explained in a YouTube video. “For us, it’s been really hard hearing from the medical professionals. A lot of their feedback [has been] really upsetting for us, because it’s not what we ever wanted to hear. We never wanted to be in this position, and we’ve been trying to get his needs met and help him out as much as possible.” [jwplayer GNltMCxC] Myka, for her part, insisted the couple could not provide for their son. “There’s not an ounce of our body that doesn’t love Huxley with all of our being. There wasn’t a minute that [we] didn’t try our hardest,” she said. “And I think what Jim is trying to say is that after multiple assessments, after multiple evaluations, numerous medical professionals have felt that he needed a different fit and that [with] his medical needs, he needed more.” The internet personality, who shares four other children with her husband, added: “Do I feel like a failure as a mom? Like, 500 percent. … It’s not about me at all, but … the last couple of months have been the hardest thing I could’ve ever imagined.” Scroll down to revisit Myka’s quotes about the adoption process and Huxley.

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Convincing James to Adopt

In a July 2016 YouTube video, Myka revealed that her husband was hesitant to adopt, noting that it “took him a long time” to agree. “It wasn’t right in his heart, you know?” she said. “It wasn’t something he was 100 percent ready for.”

James, meanwhile, added: “It’ll be fun. We’re kind of crazy anyways, so it’ll be a fun adventure that we can say that we did.”

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The Power of Three

Myka shared in October 2016 that she wanted to adopt more than one child. “If I could kind of paint my own picture, I would have three biological and three adopted, and we would kind of be done, but I am leaving that in the Lord’s hands,” she explained.

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Nerves

Myka admitted she was “most nervous” about the transition after bringing her child home. “I hope that [my other children] don’t have a hard time,” she said. “I hope that they don’t go through a period of time where they’re like, you know, not sure if they’re getting enough of my attention. … Sharing my time and my attention and just figuring out how the new dynamics are going to lay out because that will be a little tricky. It’ll take a little time to get everything functioning properly again … and I just hope that it overall goes really, really smooth.”

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Medical Condition

Myka revealed in December 2016 that the couple intentionally chose to adopt a child with a medical condition. “We kind of knew that we were gonna go down the special focus route. We weren’t 100 percent sure,” she noted. “My husband initially, he wanted to go LID, which means your kiddos don’t really have much going on or it’s not very extensive as far as medical care. … So what me and my husband did is we started talking to physicians, we started having meetings, we started doing tons of different things so that we could really figure out which conditions, which systems in the body we were comfortable with. … As an RN, I kind of knew that I would be fairly comfortable with quite a few things ‘cause I have seen so many different conditions in my scope of practice, so my comfort level is very, very, very high. So, for example, on the medical checklist for all of the conditions that kiddos could have, let’s just say there’s 100 conditions, me and my husband were comfortable with 99 of the conditions, so we were very, very open.”

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Fears

“I said, ‘What is his specific diagnosis?’ And she told me on the phone and my heart just stopped. It just stopped, so hard, and I felt crushed. I felt fear, I felt scared, and I was crushed,” Myka recalled. “However, she sent me the file, I opened up the file and I feel like all of the fear that I had when she told me on the phone, I feel like it all went away when I opened his file. I prayed right before — after she kind of told me on the phone — I said a prayer to the Lord and I said, ‘Please, Lord, if you have any time, could you please give me a sign? I am so drawn to this little boy and I feel a calling to him. Could you please give me a sign?’ And I open up his file and the sign is there. It is loud and clear and it is the first thing in his file, and I couldn’t quit crying. Was I scared of his diagnosis? Absolutely. And I’m still scared of his diagnosis. But I don’t care. I mean, that’s not gonna stop me. I know he is my son and every day goes by I know he’s my son more and more.”

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No Going Back

Myka declared in a January 2017 video that no diagnosis would separate her from Huxley. “If anything, my child is not returnable,” she said after a doctor discouraged her from adopting him. 

She discussed the warning with James, but they decided “without a doubt in our minds, we knew, no matter what state he came to us, that we would love him.” She later shared their devotion to Huxley: “He’s our son and that’s that. We’re not gonna trade him in, we’re not gonna return him, he’s our boy.”

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First Impressions

Myka called the first three days of Huxley’s adoption the “hardest” of her and James’ lives in an October 2017 YouTube video, explaining, “He completely rejected me on the most hardest level humanly possible. I wouldn’t say that I took it personally, but it was hard because I loved this boy so fiercely before meeting him — and I still love him — but I loved him so fiercely and his rejection of me was so harsh that I couldn’t even look at him from another room. If he saw me looking at him, he would scream and cry and wouldn’t quit crying and for me, that crushed me. I have never felt a feeling like that. … I’ve never felt so much frustration and such a challenge.”