Which ‘Ultimatum: Queer Love’ Couples are Still Together? Lexie and Rae, Sam and Aussie and More

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Which 'Ultimatum: Queer Love' Couples are Still Together? Lexie and Rae, Sam and Aussie and More

Happily ever after? The Ultimatum: Queer Love hit Netflix in May 2023, putting five couples’ relationships to the ultimate test. Just like in the reality series' first installment — 2022’s The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On — one person from each pair entered the social experiment wanting to get married while the other person had reservations about tying the knot. The contestants then chose new partners from the rest of the group and temporarily moved in together. At the end of the experiment, the original couples decided whether to get married or call it quits. Although season 2 of the Netflix show followed the same premise as its predecessor, Queer Love featured an all-LGBTQ+, predominantly female cast. JoAnna Garcia Swisher also stepped in as host, taking over for Nick Lachey and Vanessa Lachey, who headed Marry or Move On. In a May 2023 interview with POPSUGAR, Swisher said that despite all of the show’s drama, the best part of her hosting experience was witnessing the love the couples had for each other. "At the heart of it, there's just so much love between the people that participated in the show, and it was just really amazing to see how vulnerable they were, and how willing they were to go there and experience the task at hand," she told the outlet. [sendtonews type="float" key="zKquYub3mw-2832711-14453"] One couple from the show, Sam Mark and Aussie Chau, feel “even more in love” after going through the experience together. “I really am so lucky to be with this person,” Aussie told Tudum in June 2023, noting that Sam was one of the first people that “questioned” Aussie’s gender identity. “She allowed that space for me to explore and I’m still exploring. Am I nonbinary? Am I [a] trans man? Am I transmasculine? These are all the things that weren’t in my vocabulary growing up. Having a partner who’s supportive in that journey has allowed me the space to do that,” Aussie explained. The couple are taking their time with planning their nuptials with Aussie noting that their relationship is based on “so much more of a commitment than just having a wedding.” The reality TV alum also revealed that Tiff Der and Vanessa Papa are the only Queer Love alums who can expect an invitation to the wedding. As for Mildred Woody, who was Aussie’s temporary partner during the social experiment, the duo are not currently on speaking terms. “There’s still some healing for me to do on my end, and I’m going to get there,” Aussie explained. Keep scrolling to see a status update on each couple from The Ultimatum: Queer Love:

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Which 'Ultimatum: Queer Love' Couples are Still Together? Lexie and Rae, Sam and Aussie and More

Happily ever after? The Ultimatum: Queer Love hit Netflix in May 2023, putting five couples’ relationships to the ultimate test. Just like in the reality series' first installment — 2022’s The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On — one person from each pair entered the social experiment wanting to get married while the other person had reservations about tying the knot. The contestants then chose new partners from the rest of the group and temporarily moved in together. At the end of the experiment, the original couples decided whether to get married or call it quits. Although season 2 of the Netflix show followed the same premise as its predecessor, Queer Love featured an all-LGBTQ+, predominantly female cast. JoAnna Garcia Swisher also stepped in as host, taking over for Nick Lachey and Vanessa Lachey, who headed Marry or Move On. In a May 2023 interview with POPSUGAR, Swisher said that despite all of the show’s drama, the best part of her hosting experience was witnessing the love the couples had for each other. "At the heart of it, there's just so much love between the people that participated in the show, and it was just really amazing to see how vulnerable they were, and how willing they were to go there and experience the task at hand," she told the outlet. [sendtonews type="float" key="zKquYub3mw-2832711-14453"] One couple from the show, Sam Mark and Aussie Chau, feel “even more in love” after going through the experience together. “I really am so lucky to be with this person,” Aussie told Tudum in June 2023, noting that Sam was one of the first people that “questioned” Aussie’s gender identity. “She allowed that space for me to explore and I’m still exploring. Am I nonbinary? Am I [a] trans man? Am I transmasculine? These are all the things that weren’t in my vocabulary growing up. Having a partner who’s supportive in that journey has allowed me the space to do that,” Aussie explained. The couple are taking their time with planning their nuptials with Aussie noting that their relationship is based on “so much more of a commitment than just having a wedding.” The reality TV alum also revealed that Tiff Der and Vanessa Papa are the only Queer Love alums who can expect an invitation to the wedding. As for Mildred Woody, who was Aussie’s temporary partner during the social experiment, the duo are not currently on speaking terms. “There’s still some healing for me to do on my end, and I’m going to get there,” Aussie explained. Keep scrolling to see a status update on each couple from The Ultimatum: Queer Love:

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Lexi and Rae

The duo split shortly after filming the Queer Love reunion, which aired in June 2023.

“We were good at the reunion, and then afterwards, we were still rehashing things. [Lexi] started a new career and her lifestyle really changed, and we were having trouble navigating that and things from the past,” Rae Cheung-Sutton told Tudum in June 2023. “It just kind of just got to a point where we couldn’t come to terms on certain differences.”

Lexi Goldberg, for her part debuted her relationship with photographer Kristin "Zanc" Zancanelli via TikTok and Instagram one day after the reunion episode hit Netflix. 

"Back during one of the hardest months of my life, I let my best friend do a photoshoot of me wearing my reunion dress," Lexi wrote via Instagram. "It's so incredibly amazing to see the smile that this woman put on my face even as a friend in some of my darkest moments. I feel overwhelmed by how I see myself through her lens, how clearly happy she made me."

She continued:  "Flash forward to today, this woman has taken absolutely every inch of space my heart has to give. She's made me more comfortable in my own skin, in my own body, in my own sexuality, in whatever I want to wear. I feel every day the way I look in this picture: happy."

The consultant told Tudum that the new romance gives her a similar feeling of happiness that she experienced with Mal Wright, her temporary partner on Queer Love.

“I found somebody that gives me all of the love and happiness I felt with Mal, mixed with an intimacy that we’re exploring,” she said. “That’s truly what I always wanted when I knew my relationship with Rae was ending — somebody that made me feel the way I felt when I was with Mal and we were walking around San Diego calling each other our wives.”

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Sam and Aussie

The pair are still together and are in no rush to walk down the aisle. 

“We’re slowly getting there, but I just have so much groundwork that I’m doing with my life that that’s kind of taken priority,” Aussie told Tudum in June 2023 of the wedding planning process. 

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Vanessa and Xander

Vanessa and Xander Boger called it quits after their respective trial marriages with Rae and Yoly Rojas. They both ended up in tears when coming face to face for the first time in a year at the reunion. However, Xander told Tudum in June 2023 that the emotional reconciliation didn’t seem as authentic after some time had passed.

“We didn't talk all year and then she reached out to me two weeks before the reunion,” Xander recalled. “After the reunion, it was just like, poof, she was gone. It felt like her intentions again were not in the right place and not in my best interest.”

The physical therapist added that their connection with Yoly wasn’t meant to be either and that once both of them were single, their “time had passed.”

Vanessa, for her part, told Tudum of Xander: “There’s always going to be love there, and I will always wish the best for her. In a few years there’s a friendship to be had, but for now it’s a struggle bus.”

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Mal and Yoly

The pair split shortly after the experiment ended. Although the pair aren’t currently on speaking terms, Mal told Tudum that her ex still feels “like family” to her. “Yoly is a fantastic person and she’s a human doing the best that she can like all of us,” she said.

Yoly, meanwhile, told the outlet that she still feels “love” and “care” for Mal, but is ready to focus on herself. 

“I’ve been in relationships since I was 17, one after another,” she explained. “I haven’t spent that much time alone. I’ve always had a partner, and I’m either spending the night at their house or she’s over at mine. But post-show, I’ve been single as f—k, like, actively single.”

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Tiff and Mildred

The twosome got engaged on the show, but it became clear during the reunion that things had soured between them. 

“There wasn’t anything I could see in a future with Tiff,” Mildred said. It also came to light that Mildred had been arrested after throwing a picture frame and a dog gate at Tiff during an argument. 

“I had no ill intent toward [Mildred] and then she berates me onstage and it ripped open a huge Band-Aid for me,” Tiff — who walked out of the reunion early — told Tudum. 

“She shot herself in the foot,” Tiff added of Mildred’s behavior at the reunion. “I didn’t mention her son, she mentions her son. I didn’t mention the arrest report, she mentions the arrest report. She lays everything out [in the] open, and I was absolutely shocked.”

Mildred, for her part, addressed the reunion via Instagram the same day it aired.

“I’m just learning how to deliver. I’m learning to use my voice after being in a very emotionally abusive relationship. I’m learning calmness, even when being emotionally abused, so I can properly speak and express discomfort,” she captioned a June 2023 Instagram post.