It’s all about upkeep. On Wednesday, March 16, Kristin Cavallari stopped by SiriusXM’s Wake Up With Taylor radio show, where she opened up about how going to couples therapy with hubby Jay Cutler helps them maintain a healthy marriage.
“I mean, like, Jay and I — our relationship — I’m very honest,” the Laguna Beach alum, 29, told host Taylor Strecker. “We don’t have a perfect relationship. You know, we work on it. We’re in therapy.”
Cavallari revealed that she and the Chicago Bears quarterback, 32, first started seeing a counselor right before they called off their wedding in July 2011. They reconciled in November 2011 and eventually married in 2013. After they tied the knot, the couple resumed therapy.
“One hundred percent, I think it saved our relationship,” the reality star turned designer said. “It’s the best. And I think it’s so good for each person individually as well. I realized why I react certain ways to certain things, and you learn great tools for communication, which is the most important thing I think. And so, yeah, I 100 percent credit our therapist.”
Cavallari explains in her new book, Balancing in Heels: My Journey to Health, Happiness, and Making It All Work, why she and Cutler decided to cancel their nuptials the first time around.
“At that moment, something wasn’t right,” the former MTV personality writes. “A few things needed to change, and I knew the only way Jay would see how serious I was, was if I ended the relationship.”
One of the main issues plaguing their romance at the time was Cutler’s expectation of Cavallari to be a stay-at-home wife and mom. “If I stayed at home, I wouldn’t be happy,” she admits in her tome. “And would probably end up resenting Jay for it.”
Several years of therapy sessions later, Cavallari and Cutler have worked through their problems and are now proud parents to three kids, sons Camden, 3, and Jaxon, 22 months, and daughter Saylor, 3 months.