Jessica Alba and Cash Warren’s Most Honest Quotes About Their Relationship: ‘You Become Roommates’

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Jessica Alba and Cash Warren’s Most Honest Quotes About Their Relationship: ‘You Become Roommates’

It’s not all sunshine and roses. Jessica Alba and Cash Warren have been vocal about how they try and keep their spark alive while raising three children — and it’s not always easy. The couple met while working on 2004’s Fantastic Four, which Alba starred in as Susan Storm and Warren was a production assistant. After dating for nearly four years, the duo tied the knot in May 2008. The Pair of Thieves cofounder reflected on their spur-of-the-moment decision to get hitched in 2019 while honoring his wife on their 11-year anniversary. Warren noted that the choice to get married came one month before they welcomed their first child, daughter Honor, in June 2008. “Prior to that day, neither of us thought marriage was important ... it felt outdated and we weren’t going to fall for an antiquated social construction,” Warren wrote via Instagram in May 2019 of the last-minute nuptials. “But something changed in us that morning.” The father of three — the pair also share daughter Haven and son Hayes, born in 2011 and 2017, respectively — added that their quick wedding was just the right fit for them as a family. “11 years and 3 kids later, we’re still learning, growing, giggling and loving,” he added. “Here’s to a lifetime of pushing each other to be the best versions of ourselves and catching each other when we fall.” Over the years, the Into the Blue actress and her longtime love have made parenting a priority, but they have also focused on keeping their love alive. [jwplayer kbxoSy4M-zhNYySv2] “After we had Honor, we definitely scheduled date nights, which sounds like it’s not romantic. But our lives are so hectic that we said, ‘Every Wednesday, this is going to happen,’” the actress told Refinery29 in August 2019. “Now, we have Friday, Saturday, and Sunday night blocked out where we don’t do any kind of work. We might go to the movies one night, we have one family dinner night where everyone helps out, and usually one of those nights is just me and Cash.” Two years later, the L.A.’s Finest star revealed that her husband sometimes “get the short end of the stick” when it comes to her time. “And it's not even him, I would say it's us," Alba explained during a July 2021 appearance on Katherine Schwarzenegger’s Instagram show, Before, During and After Baby. "When I'm seeing him and spending time with him and we're really enjoying each other, it's an 'us' thing and it feeds me as well. It's hard. It's impossible." The Honest Company founder noted that her marriage is a “life journey” that she and Warren are committed to working on no matter how hard things may get. “If you're both every day deciding to do it, it's gonna work out, regardless of the drama, regardless of anything that happens. If you're both like, 'I want to figure this out,' nothing can really break that,” Alba added. “The second one of you is checked out then it's a one-sided relationship. Because you're not always gonna be on the same page, and you're not always gonna grow at the same pace." Scroll down to see Alba and Warren’s most-telling quotes about their dynamic: [podcast_block]

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Jessica Alba and Cash Warren’s Most Honest Quotes About Their Relationship: ‘You Become Roommates’

It’s not all sunshine and roses. Jessica Alba and Cash Warren have been vocal about how they try and keep their spark alive while raising three children — and it’s not always easy. The couple met while working on 2004’s Fantastic Four, which Alba starred in as Susan Storm and Warren was a production assistant. After dating for nearly four years, the duo tied the knot in May 2008. The Pair of Thieves cofounder reflected on their spur-of-the-moment decision to get hitched in 2019 while honoring his wife on their 11-year anniversary. Warren noted that the choice to get married came one month before they welcomed their first child, daughter Honor, in June 2008. “Prior to that day, neither of us thought marriage was important ... it felt outdated and we weren’t going to fall for an antiquated social construction,” Warren wrote via Instagram in May 2019 of the last-minute nuptials. “But something changed in us that morning.” The father of three — the pair also share daughter Haven and son Hayes, born in 2011 and 2017, respectively — added that their quick wedding was just the right fit for them as a family. “11 years and 3 kids later, we’re still learning, growing, giggling and loving,” he added. “Here’s to a lifetime of pushing each other to be the best versions of ourselves and catching each other when we fall.” Over the years, the Into the Blue actress and her longtime love have made parenting a priority, but they have also focused on keeping their love alive. [jwplayer kbxoSy4M-zhNYySv2] “After we had Honor, we definitely scheduled date nights, which sounds like it’s not romantic. But our lives are so hectic that we said, ‘Every Wednesday, this is going to happen,’” the actress told Refinery29 in August 2019. “Now, we have Friday, Saturday, and Sunday night blocked out where we don’t do any kind of work. We might go to the movies one night, we have one family dinner night where everyone helps out, and usually one of those nights is just me and Cash.” Two years later, the L.A.’s Finest star revealed that her husband sometimes “get the short end of the stick” when it comes to her time. “And it's not even him, I would say it's us," Alba explained during a July 2021 appearance on Katherine Schwarzenegger’s Instagram show, Before, During and After Baby. "When I'm seeing him and spending time with him and we're really enjoying each other, it's an 'us' thing and it feeds me as well. It's hard. It's impossible." The Honest Company founder noted that her marriage is a “life journey” that she and Warren are committed to working on no matter how hard things may get. “If you're both every day deciding to do it, it's gonna work out, regardless of the drama, regardless of anything that happens. If you're both like, 'I want to figure this out,' nothing can really break that,” Alba added. “The second one of you is checked out then it's a one-sided relationship. Because you're not always gonna be on the same page, and you're not always gonna grow at the same pace." Scroll down to see Alba and Warren’s most-telling quotes about their dynamic: [podcast_block]

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Having Each Other’s Back

“Right after I met [Cash], I called my best friend and was like, ‘I met this guy and I feel like I’ve known him forever and I’m gonna know him for the rest of my life,’” Alba revealed during the September 2010 issue of Cosmopolitan. “The romantic stuff comes and goes, but it’s like, ‘Does that person have your back?’ You have to be a team navigating through wherever life may lead you and I want a friend for that.”

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Support System

“Whenever I doubt myself for a second, he’s the first one to come up and say, ‘You can do this, I believe in you,'” the Fantastic Four actress exclusively told Us Weekly when her company first launched in 2011 of her husband’s unwavering support. “I don’t know what I’d do without him there. And he’s so good with the kids. We’re really happy.”

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Kindred Spirits

“I just knew when I met him that I was going to know him forever. It was weird; he instantly felt like family. It was so easy. I’d never felt like that with anyone,” Alba told InStyle during her February 2013 cover story. “I was usually pretty self-conscious, minding my p’s and q’s, very aware of every time my fork hit the plate when I was having dinner on a date. With him, there was none of that. We got each other. We’re kindred spirits.”

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Us Time

“You have to be structured about carving out time for yourself and your relationship,” the Never Been Kissed actress said during her April 2018 Redbook cover shoot. “I like to go hard. That effort level where you’re pushing yourself to the limit is almost meditative.”

Alba explained that she would “always try to get home from work for bath time and to cuddle the kids before bed. After that, Cash and I have dinner together and talk about our days. I need us time all the time.”

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Not-So Dream Wedding

While celebrating the couple’s anniversary in May 2019, Warren reflected on the “awkward” way their nuptials came to be. “11 years ago ... we were lying in bed having one of those amazing lazy mornings where we we’d do nothing. You were 9 months pregnant with Honor and we were so excited to meet her in the coming weeks,” he wrote via Instagram at the time. “Not sure who thought of it first but the decision we made that day would forever change the course of our lives. We hopped up, got dressed and drove straight to the courthouse.”

The Being Terry Kennedy executive producer noted that it “wasn’t the dream wedding you deserved. In fact, it was laughably awkward. Standing under an arch of dusty plastic flowers in the courthouse chapel, we held hands and said I Do.” He remembered not having any friends or family by their side as they tied the knot, but it didn’t matter.

“Just you, me and the courthouse employee who served as our witness. We walked out holding hands, giggling with excitement and a touch of nervousness,” he continued. “I remember opening the car door for you and as you climbed in, calling you ‘Mrs. Warren’ for the first time.”

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11 Years Together

The Sin City actress gushed over her man on their 11-year anniversary in May 2019. “#Us #11yearsmarried my @cash_warren ❤️, my best friend, my everything,” she wrote via Instagram at the time. “We are better together — the life we dreamt of and manifested together is beyond anything I could have imagined. I love you with my whole self... we got this #rideordie por vida #happyanniversary.”

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Movie Star Hookups

During a joint interview on “The Skinny Confidential Him & Her” podcast in May 2019, the duo argued over whether onscreen sex scenes were a perk of the job as an actor. Alba called the whole thing “disgusting,” while Warren joked about how nice it would be to get intimate with someone else on camera.

“There’s no way hooking up with someone else is not fun. You’re still having fun, that dude’s a stud. There’s no way you’re not gonna enjoy hooking up with him,” the Los Angeles native said. “I would be an actor just to have that moment.”

The Flipper alum, however, had a difference of opinion, saying, “That’s the difference between me and you. It’s just disgusting most of the time because they are usually a stranger.” Warren fired back, “Even more fun. No way.”

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Necessary Date Nights

“If you don’t make time to connect on that date night level, then you can find yourself just going through the motions,” the Machete actress told Refinery29 in August 2019 as to why her and Warren’s couple time is key. “When you have three kids, or even if you only have one, the kids’ schedules are a priority, your work is a priority, everything seems to take precedence over the thing that should be the most important: your partnership, and the life you’re building together.”

Alba added: “I’ve found that we're much happier when we treat our relationship as a sacred thing, as something that needs to be worked on and treated well and given the kind of care that it should have.”

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Parenting Priorities

“One thing that Jessica and I are 100 percent aligned on is that we’re not raising a–holes,” Warren said in the June 2020 issue of Drew + Scott Reveal magazine. “If they get out of line, we’re not going to stand for it. We’ve tried to maintain the values our parents taught us.”

Alba seconded her husband’s remarks, adding, “I don’t shy away from setting boundaries and routines. They have to make their beds. They have to set the table, clear the table — those are no-brainers, right? They participate in taking care of the home and themselves.”

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Roommate Status

The Dark Angel alum got real about the ups and downs in her marriage during a July 2021 appearance on Schwarzenegger’s Instagram show, Before, During and After Baby. "It's all rosy for two and a half years. But then after that you become roommates," Alba said, laughing. "You're just going through the motions. You have the responsibilities; it's a lot of, like, checking the boxes, right?"

The actress explained that her and Warren’s romantic bond has at times become their last priority, despite trying to make time for weekly date nights.

"We have, like, obviously the friendship, the comfort of, like, 'You're not going anywhere,' and so sometimes you don't treat those people the best, right?” she added. “You don't consider their feelings in the way that you would consider other people's feelings. So that is something that I think is a constant one to work on."