Sharing her story. Ali Fedotowsky spoke to her Instagram followers “from [her] heart” after suffering a miscarriage.
“I am 1 in 4,” the former Bachelorette, 35, captioned her Tuesday, July 21, social media upload. “I had a miscarriage recently (I’m at the OBGYN right now for a follow up). I’m not sharing this because I feel sorry for myself or I want others to tell me they feel sorry for me. I don’t feel sorry for myself. I feel sad for what could’ve been. Sad for the baby that was growing inside me. Sad because it’s sad. I want to share this because I think it’s important.”
The Bachelor alum, who shares Molly, 4, and Riley, 2, with husband Kevin Manno, went on to describe the experience she may never “fully talk about,” explaining, “It happened early one morning when I had intense cramping. I passed the gestational sac — which was the size of a plum — in my bedroom. I was in complete shock when it happened. I sat and stared at it for hours — not able to fully comprehend what happened. And the utter exhaustion that took over my body in the few days after that was almost debilitating.”
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I am 1 in 4. I don’t really know what to say here. I’m sitting in my car, using talk to text & I’m just gonna speak from my heart. I had a miscarriage recently (I’m at the OBGYN right now for a follow up). I’m not sharing this bc I feel sorry for myself or I want others to tell me they feel sorry for me. I don’t feel sorry for myself. I feel sad for what could’ve been. Sad for the baby that was growing inside me. Sad because it’s sad. I want to share this because I think it’s important. I’m so uplifted and encouraged by the way I’m seeing social media change. Change from being a place where everyone shares the highlights of their life and now being a place where people share the good & the bad – the smiles & the tears. ❤️ It’s such a long story of how it all happened. I’m not ready to fully talk about it and I honestly don’t know if I ever will be. (CONTENT WARNING – this may be difficult to read. Especially for those who have experienced a pregnancy loss) It happened early one morning when I had intense cramping. I passed the gestational sac – which was the size of a plum – in my bedroom. I was in complete shock when it happened. I sat and stared at it for hours – not able to fully comprehend what happened. And the utter exhaustion that took over my body in the few days after that was almost debilitating. Actually, being completely exhausted for weeks was one of the first signs that I was pregnant. 🌸 I’m writing this post to let others know who have experienced pregnancy loss know that I see you & feel you. We all go through different emotions & process the loss differently. I know that my loss is not the same as someone who’s had a stillbirth or lost a baby at 20 weeks. Or someone who has been trying to conceive for years. But what I found so shocking about my experience is that it affected me so much harder than I could have imagined. So know that if you’re going or have gone through this, your feelings are valid – whatever they may be❤️ With love, Ali #miscarriage #
Fellow Bachelor Nation members showed their support for the Massachusetts native in the comments. “Sending you so much love Ali,” Vanessa Grimaldi wrote, while Desiree Siegfried commented, “I’m so sorry, Ali. Thank you for sharing.”
Fedotowsky thanked her followers for their “love,” revealing she initially “didn’t want to share” the news. “Grief and shame tied to miscarriage goes beyond what I originally thought people felt shame about when discussing miscarriage — at least for me,” the mommy blogger explained. “I never quite realized part of that shame was feeling like you didn’t deserve support afterwards. So thank you for reminding me and helping me see that it’s OK to feel supported in this moment.”
In July 2018, the Home and Family star exclusively told Us Weekly that there was “no chance” she was expanding her and Manno’s family of four, saying, “We’re talking about vasectomies. Like, we are done. I’ve done enough, OK? … We don’t want more than two. The thing is, a vasectomy is reversible … but, like, we’re like certain we don’t want one, even though I say, never say never.”
The journalist told Us the following year that she and the radio host, 37, were considering adoption for baby No. 3. “That way, also, we’re helping a child that really, really needs [it],” Fedotowsky said in February 2019. “It’s not like we have to get pregnant now because I’m pregnant for nine months and then we want the kids to be close in age, [so] we could do it later. And I think that’d be really special.”
She added at the time: “I like the idea of having a big family, but not being pregnant.”
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