Bachelor in Paradise’s Evan Bass Shares New Details of Carly Waddell Divorce: There’s Still ‘Scars’ and ‘Wounds’

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Bachelor in Paradise's Evan Bass Shares New Details of Carly Waddell Divorce: There's Still 'Scars' and 'Wounds'

Nearly two years after calling it quits, Evan Bass is finally ready to open up about his split from Carly Waddell. "I just don't think we set the foundation in the way that we should have,” he admitted on the “Talking It Out” podcast on Thursday, June 23. Fans watched Bass and Waddell meet on season 3 of Bachelor in Paradise. They returned to Mexico for season 4 of the series in 2017 and exchanged vows. The pair went on to welcome daughter Isabella in 2018 and son Charles “Charlie” Wolf in November 2019. They announced their split in December 2020. “We have made the difficult decision to separate,” they said in a statement at the time. “We will always cherish our time together and continue to have the utmost respect for one another as we focus on what’s best for the future of our family. We greatly appreciate everyone’s love and support and kindly ask that you please respect our family’s privacy as we navigate through this.” Prior to his stint in Bachelor Nation, Bass was previously married to Marie Bass, with whom he shares three sons: Ensley, Liam and Nathan. [jwplayer 6Mvj5B0W-zhNYySv2] “This is divorce No. 2, so I really wanted to, like, sort of just take some time and focus on my kids and really just sort of step away,” Evan said of his decision not to speak out until now. Evan explained that it’s “embarrassing on a level” to be divorced twice. He added that it’s still “hard” to talk about his split from Waddell. “I'm not out of it. … Like, it's still emotional,” he said. “It's this deep sadness still, I don't know if you ever just get completely, like, perfect. There’s the scars and the wounds — they heal but they're also there to teach you and teach me and I’m trying my best.” The Bachelorette alum admitted he has a tendency to rush relationships. “I should probably wait a very long time before I get married again,” Evan joked. “Both of the marriages I've been in have been fairly quick in their turnaround time. … My first one was, like, three and a half months. And then, with Carly it was right on a year,” he said of when he married his respective spouses. “We got married on Paradise, like, almost exactly one year after we got engaged.” Scroll through for more from Evan:

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Bachelor in Paradise's Evan Bass Shares New Details of Carly Waddell Divorce: There's Still 'Scars' and 'Wounds'

Nearly two years after calling it quits, Evan Bass is finally ready to open up about his split from Carly Waddell. "I just don't think we set the foundation in the way that we should have,” he admitted on the “Talking It Out” podcast on Thursday, June 23. Fans watched Bass and Waddell meet on season 3 of Bachelor in Paradise. They returned to Mexico for season 4 of the series in 2017 and exchanged vows. The pair went on to welcome daughter Isabella in 2018 and son Charles “Charlie” Wolf in November 2019. They announced their split in December 2020. “We have made the difficult decision to separate,” they said in a statement at the time. “We will always cherish our time together and continue to have the utmost respect for one another as we focus on what’s best for the future of our family. We greatly appreciate everyone’s love and support and kindly ask that you please respect our family’s privacy as we navigate through this.” Prior to his stint in Bachelor Nation, Bass was previously married to Marie Bass, with whom he shares three sons: Ensley, Liam and Nathan. [jwplayer 6Mvj5B0W-zhNYySv2] “This is divorce No. 2, so I really wanted to, like, sort of just take some time and focus on my kids and really just sort of step away,” Evan said of his decision not to speak out until now. Evan explained that it’s “embarrassing on a level” to be divorced twice. He added that it’s still “hard” to talk about his split from Waddell. “I'm not out of it. … Like, it's still emotional,” he said. “It's this deep sadness still, I don't know if you ever just get completely, like, perfect. There’s the scars and the wounds — they heal but they're also there to teach you and teach me and I’m trying my best.” The Bachelorette alum admitted he has a tendency to rush relationships. “I should probably wait a very long time before I get married again,” Evan joked. “Both of the marriages I've been in have been fairly quick in their turnaround time. … My first one was, like, three and a half months. And then, with Carly it was right on a year,” he said of when he married his respective spouses. “We got married on Paradise, like, almost exactly one year after we got engaged.” Scroll through for more from Evan:

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Why He and Carly Split

"That six weeks I was on the beach changed my life, and it created this amazing bubble where I was able to connect with Carly, and I think it's beautiful what that can do," Evan said. "I think that when we got out of it, we weren't able to set a proper foundation. Paradise, gives you a kind of foundation that's very — there's nothing going on, right? You just have to work on your relationship. And you talk about real-life stuff and for me, it was very genuine, and I think when you get out, that transition, that's probably where we missed it. Like, communicating about values and just communication in general. Figuring out how to work through life. I have obviously other children that aren't with Carly, and so, there was just a lot to work through."

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Coparenting With Carly

“It's been a bit of a process. … I’ve got my older boys, other than the one who's moved out full time,” he said. “I really wanted, like, 50/50 but there's part of that you just have to give up and be, like, they're so young, they need their mom. It sucked. I hate it. I hate not being with them all the time. You work through it. It's never easy. There’s no such thing as easy coparenting. … But with Carly, it's fine. I think we've found our groove and it's good.”

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‘Unhealthy’ Love

“I’d like to think I could a more measured approach, but I love love. And that's part of the problem, right? I love love. … It can become unhealthy if you don't have the boundaries,” he admitted.

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How He’d Feel If Carly Was the Bachelorette

“I thought it'd be funny if Carly was the Bachelorette and then I, like, showed up to give advice unsolicited,” he joked. “Somebody was, like, asking Carly about being the Bachelorette. I was like, ‘That's amazing.’ But it actually really hurt but I had to be like, ‘It's fine.’ …  I was just trying to protect myself from pain in that moment.”

While Evan tried to say he wouldn’t return to the ABC franchise, he admitted, “Of course, I would do it. I’m full of s—t.”

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Going to Therapy

“I have done a ton of therapy,” Evan said. “I judged the crap out of myself. … Learning how to accept myself and sort of, I don't know if rationalize is the right word [but] rationalize why I did certain things and why certain things happened really helped.”