Bachelor Nation’s Jef Holm and Robby Hayes’ Friendship, Legal Drama: Everything to Know

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Bachelor Nation’s Jef Holm and Robby Hayes’ Friendship, Legal Drama: Everything to Know

Jef Holm and Robby Hayes aren’t the first pair of former Bachelorette contestants to strike up a friendship, but things didn’t stay rosy between the pair for long. Bachelor Nation met Holm on Emily Maynard’s season 8 of The Bachelorette. While they got engaged during the July 2012 finale, Maynard and Holm called it quits that October. It would be four years until viewers were introduced to Hayes, who competed for JoJo Fletcher’s affections on season 12 of the ABC series. While he made it to the final two, Fletcher picked Jordan Rodgers and is still engaged to the former football player. Hayes, meanwhile, went on to appear on season 4 of Bachelor in Paradise and briefly struck up a relationship with Amanda Stanton. While he returned for season 5 of BiP in 2018, he didn’t find any strong love connections on the beach. Holm and Hayes didn’t appear on screen together but still met through the Bachelor universe at Nick Viall’s Women Tell All taping in 2017. Chase McNary, who appeared alongside Hayes on Fletcher’s season, also became friends with Holm. “We ended up after partying at his house,” Hayes exclusively told Us Weekly that April. “He said his two roommates were moving out and gave [Chase and I] the opportunity to move in. … You can literally see Venice Beach Pier from my window. That's how close we are to the beach. It's incredible." Over the next year, the trio documented their friendship via Instagram. “Because Saturdays are for the boys. #Stagecoach #TheLostBoys,” Hayes captioned a group shot with Holm at the music festival in 2018. [jwplayer BqdliaL0-l3ahXupL] While it’s unclear exactly when Hayes and Holm had a falling out, the latter took legal action against the former swimmer in August 2021. “He claims he has belongings there & that’s why he enters but he is not on the lease and is making me fearful,” Holm wrote in court documents obtained by Us, alleging that Hayes “enters the property and becomes hostile” at least “once a week.” A judge subsequently granted Holm a temporary restraining order against Hayes. Scroll through for more details from the court documents and for everything to know about Holm and Hayes:

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Bachelor Nation’s Jef Holm and Robby Hayes’ Friendship, Legal Drama: Everything to Know

Jef Holm and Robby Hayes aren’t the first pair of former Bachelorette contestants to strike up a friendship, but things didn’t stay rosy between the pair for long. Bachelor Nation met Holm on Emily Maynard’s season 8 of The Bachelorette. While they got engaged during the July 2012 finale, Maynard and Holm called it quits that October. It would be four years until viewers were introduced to Hayes, who competed for JoJo Fletcher’s affections on season 12 of the ABC series. While he made it to the final two, Fletcher picked Jordan Rodgers and is still engaged to the former football player. Hayes, meanwhile, went on to appear on season 4 of Bachelor in Paradise and briefly struck up a relationship with Amanda Stanton. While he returned for season 5 of BiP in 2018, he didn’t find any strong love connections on the beach. Holm and Hayes didn’t appear on screen together but still met through the Bachelor universe at Nick Viall’s Women Tell All taping in 2017. Chase McNary, who appeared alongside Hayes on Fletcher’s season, also became friends with Holm. “We ended up after partying at his house,” Hayes exclusively told Us Weekly that April. “He said his two roommates were moving out and gave [Chase and I] the opportunity to move in. … You can literally see Venice Beach Pier from my window. That's how close we are to the beach. It's incredible." Over the next year, the trio documented their friendship via Instagram. “Because Saturdays are for the boys. #Stagecoach #TheLostBoys,” Hayes captioned a group shot with Holm at the music festival in 2018. [jwplayer BqdliaL0-l3ahXupL] While it’s unclear exactly when Hayes and Holm had a falling out, the latter took legal action against the former swimmer in August 2021. “He claims he has belongings there & that’s why he enters but he is not on the lease and is making me fearful,” Holm wrote in court documents obtained by Us, alleging that Hayes “enters the property and becomes hostile” at least “once a week.” A judge subsequently granted Holm a temporary restraining order against Hayes. Scroll through for more details from the court documents and for everything to know about Holm and Hayes:

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When They Lived Together

Hayes moved in with Holm during the spring of 2017. According to Arie Luyendyk Jr., they were still under the same roof in 2019. The season 22 Bachelor touched on Hayes and Holm’s friendship after he clapped back at Holm’s dig that Luyendyk Jr. wouldn’t last with the winner of his 2018 season.

“He lives with Robby, he's still hangs in the Bachelor circle of friends, which is fine, I just don't see why he had to come after me and be so negative when his own relationship didn't work out,” Luyendyk Jr. said on the “Almost Famous” podcast in January 2019.

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The Accusations

In the restraining order filing, Holm alleged that Hayes “used to live at my house but does not now. He continues to enter the premises & harass me & I do not feel safe around him.”

He also detailed an alleged July 2021 incident, writing, “I was alone in my home when he entered abruptly and aggressively started threatening me & I felt very unsafe. [Robby] yelled at me and threatened me and entered without permission.”

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The Restraining Order Details

Holm was granted a temporary restraining order on August 9, 2021, with a judge ordering Hayes to stay 100 yards away from his former friend. Hayes must also steer clear from Holm’s home, workplace and vehicle.

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The Next Hearing

The temporary restraining order will be in place until an August 30, 2021, hearing, during which Holm will have the opportunity to provide testimony as to why the order should be made “permanent” (a.k.a. extended three to five years). Hayes, who has yet to publicly respond, can also provide a statement in his defense.

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Jef Drops the Order

Us confirmed on August 30 that Holm skipped the hearing about the temporary restraining order, which Hayes attended. As a result, a judge dismissed the order. 

"Tensions died down as I hoped. I haven't seen any reason to continue with the restraining order, so I dropped it,” Holm told E! News at the time. “Like I mentioned before, I wish him the best."

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Robby Speaks Out

After the restraining order was dropped, The Bachelorette season 12 alum claimed that he and his roommate didn’t agree to part ways and accused Holm of kicking him out and moving his belongings to a storage unit while Hayes was on vacation.

“Its [sic] no wonder that Jef Holm didn’t show up in court to defend his false accusations, perjury would inevitably follow,” Hayes alleged in his statement to Us. “Jef Holm completely disregards other peoples [sic] feelings, well-being or the consequences of his actions. I just want to be able to feel comfortable in my own home without feeling like I can’t leave my room for concern of my own safety.”

Eric Renslo, Hayes’ attorney, told Us that further lawsuits were possible. Hayes is considering filing a restraining order against Holm as well as a civil suit for defamation.