“Dating is no longer a codified activity for me. I don’t really date,” the “Waiting on the World to Change” musician, 45, said during the Wednesday, December 21, episode of the “Call Her Daddy” podcast. “I don’t think that I have to, to be quite honest. I quit drinking like six years ago, so I don’t have the liquid courage. I just have dry courage.”
The Berklee College of Music alum has had several high profile relationships over the years, dating A-listers including Jennifer Love Hewitt, Jessica Simpson, Jennifer Aniston, Taylor Swift and Katy Perry.
Despite having “a couple of nameplates on me, like ‘Lothario,’” Mayer told “Call Her Daddy” host Alex Cooper that he wants to get married and “can’t wait” to argue about dry cleaning with his future wife.
“Every relationship I’ve ever been in was devoted to the idea that this could go the distance,” the songwriter said. “My entire life, today included, if you told me that I could have a great two months with someone but it would end on the first day of the third month, I would not be interested. I’ve always sought potential for a long-term relationship.”
Although getting sober may have robbed the Dead & Company musician of his “liquid courage” on dates, it’s also taught him a valuable lesson about to how to navigate relationships.
“You have to be honest. You have to express yourself. You have to be really glaringly honest,” he said. “You have to express your anxieties. You can’t just walk over them by drinking. You have to be like, ‘This is what I’m anxious about.’ And when someone in life accommodates your anxiety, that’s bonding. I don’t think I’m truly connected with someone until I freak out a little bit and they go, ‘It’s OK.’
Mayer also hinted at his past relationships, noting that he’s never really gotten to the fully comfortable stage with any partner.
“I haven’t really got to the part of relationship that was the ‘smooth sailing’ part. I have a feeling when I do, I’m gonna have a lot to work on — but I’ll be excited to work on it,” he said.
The “Slow Dancing in a Burning Room” singer added that he thrives on overcoming obstacles with romantic partners. “Nothing’s hotter to me than conflict resolution,” he explained. “I am horny for conflict resolution.”
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