Jessa Duggar grieved Lauren Swanson‘s miscarriage, posting a thoughtful message to her sister-in-law with a Thursday, February 22, baby bump mirror selfie.
“Pregnancy — such a precious gift, and definitely not something I take for granted,” the reality star, 26, captioned her Instagram upload. “As we look forward to meeting our baby, we’re also feeling an exceptional amount of grief over my brother Josiah and sister-in-law Lauren’s loss of their baby. Lauren and I shared the exact same due date. We have cried so many tears, both together and apart.”
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#25weeks Pregnancy— such a precious gift, and definitely not something I take for granted. As we look forward to meeting our baby, we’re also feeling an exceptional amount of grief over my brother Josiah and sister-in-law Lauren’s loss of their baby. Lauren and I shared the exact same due date. We have cried so many tears, both together and apart. My heart aches for them. I weep when I think of how difficult it must be for her to see me pregnant in the very stages where she would’ve been— right up through the baby’s due date. And yet, even in a flood of emotions, there are perplexities of the human heart that may cause us to want to clam up or remain silent through such a trial. Because of this, many people feel like they’re walking this road alone. It is true that speaking for the sake of filling silence is not needful and is often hurtful. I’ve watched Lauren converse with people who have been unknowingly insensitive, and I am amazed by her graciousness. I’ve heard some try to give reasons or explanations, not realizing that their unsolicited opinions might be very painful, like salt to a wound. One might never know the tears you cry at night as a result of their words flowing back through your head. Often times, “I love you and I’m praying for you” along with a hug are quite sufficient. We do not need to fill every silence with words. But at the same time, conversations of lost dreams should never feel suppressed. Silence can stifle healing, but a carefully chosen word may work to help bring life and healing to the soul. We must all reinforce the fact that emotions over a life lost are not something to be resisted. They’re not wrong, and you should never think that for a moment. If you’ve lost a child, know this— YOU ARE A MAMA, and you will never cease to think about and cherish the life you carried… **swipe left to read more**
Duggar added: “My heart aches for them. I weep when I think of how difficult it must be for her to see me pregnant in the very stages where she would’ve been— right up through the baby’s due date.”
One month later, Swanson, 19, opened up about the loss she and her husband, Josiah Duggar, had suffered.
“A couple months ago, we found out that we were expecting, but suddenly thereafter, we lost our baby,” she said in a TLC video on February 11.
“It was a really hard time for our family going through this right after we got married,” Josiah added. “And all the dreams of getting to see our little one and hold it in our hands dashed before our eyes.” The couple tied the knot in June 2018.
Jessa left an encouraging note for Lauren on her social media post at the time.
“Lauren, you’re such a positive, life-giving soul, even in walking through a great hardship and suffering so much loss,” the TLC personality wrote. “I don’t know how you can grieve through such a trial, and at the same time be so thoughtful to say, ‘Jess, if you ever feel too sick or tired and need some help, do not hesitate to text or call.’”
Jesse went on to list the favors that Lauren has offered to do for her, from babysitting to cooking. “That is God’s grace and it radiates from your life,” she added. “We love you both so much.”
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