Mandy Moore and Ryan Adams: A Timeline of Their Tumultuous Relationship

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Mandy Moore and Ryan Adams: A Timeline of Their Tumultuous Relationship

Mandy Moore and Ryan Adams weathered their fair share of ups and downs during their nearly six-year marriage, but the drama was not over when their relationship ended. The former couple remained relatively private about their personal lives following their 2009 wedding. The occasional soundbite or social media post made its way out into the open from time to time, but the pair largely flew under the radar. The musicians called it quits in 2015, just two months before what would have been their sixth anniversary. After finalizing their divorce in 2016, Adams and Moore appeared to still be supportive of each other, though tensions boiled beneath the surface. The actress began speaking out about her experience with her ex-husband in late 2018 after finding renewed professional success on This Is Us. She continued to come clean about the “Wonderwall” singer’s alleged behavior during their relationship, eventually leading to a 2019 New York Times profile in which seven women, including Moore, came forward to share misconduct allegations against Adams. He denied the accusations made against him. Moore remarried in 2018, tying the knot with fellow musician Taylor Goldsmith. “I always just thought, like, ‘I’m good to go to the courthouse,’” the Tangled star told Us Weekly one week before the nuptials. “I’ve never really, until this point in my life, ever dreamt about or given any thought to an actual wedding.” Meanwhile, Adams revealed one month later that he was 60 days sober. “2018: you brought me to my knees,” he tweeted at the time. “It turns out that’s where I needed to be: in prayer for everyone here or lost. In these trying times, God bless everyone struggling or on the path to empathy, kindness and recovery.” Scroll to revisit Moore and Adams’ tumultuous relationship.

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2007

The A Walk to Remember star began dating Adams, nine years her senior, in late 2007. However, the “To Be Without You” crooner denied their romance in March 2008. “I can’t believe you guys would print lies like that. You said Mandy Moore and I were dating!” he told Daily Intelligencer. “Which we’re not. She’s single, and I don’t know why everyone thinks she has to be in a relationship.”

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March 2009

Adams proposed to Moore in February 2009. The newlyweds’ reps confirmed to Us the following month that the duo tied the knot in Savannah, Georgia. Before the nuptials, the “Candy” songstress noted, “Hopefully, it can happen and slip by unnoticed by everybody. I guess we have to be sort of sneaky about it, but I’ll see what I can accomplish. … I kind of feel like, because I’ve been able to get married in a few films, I kind of got the whole giant wedding fuss out of my system.” She also called her husband “a good egg” in the April 2009 issue of Marie Claire, adding: “I’m in awe of him — his brain, his passion. He’s truly one of a kind.”

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April 2009

Moore opened up about her musical connection to her husband shortly after getting married. “That’s definitely a common interest between the two of us. There’s always music playing in the house or being written,” she told Entertainment Weekly. “It’s nice to be able to share that with one another, and share new things that we discover and find. Usually it’s him introducing me to something.” She also talked about collaborating with Adams, for whom she had “a lot of respect” at the time. “We certainly have done that at home, writing together — it just organically happens,” she said. “In terms of putting stuff out there [for public consumption], I don’t know. Maybe somewhere down the line that’ll be fun.”

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March 2014

The duo celebrated their fifth wedding anniversary with a ‘50s-themed party that pals including Minka Kelly attended. “They were lovely together,” an eyewitness told Us at the time.

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August 2014

The couple shared a hoard of animals during their marriage. “I have four adopted cats myself at home, and I’m a big animal advocate and lover,” Moore told Us of her pets. “I’m lucky to be married to somebody who feels the same way. We have our own little zoo happening right now. … There’s no way to have a connection with my husband because there are always animals in between [us]!”

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September 2014

Adams made headlines when he refused to answer questions about his personal life during an interview with an Australian radio show. “So I just hung up ‘cause I was on the radio getting asked about my wife. I was really nice about it the first time, and I’m sorry, but I won’t repeat myself,” he later explained to BuzzFeed. “The deal is this: I’m a private person and I’ll be a gentleman and say I’m not talking about my marriage ever. I’ll never talk about it. Ever.”

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January 2015

The Chasing Liberty actress and the Grammy nominee announced their split just two months shy of their sixth anniversary. “It is a respectful, amicable parting of ways and both Mandy and Ryan are asking for media to respect their privacy at this time,” they said in a statement to Us at the time.

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December 2015

Moore reportedly requested pet support and spousal support from her estranged husband. Divorce documents obtained by TMZ claimed that Adams made $151,000 per month at the time, while the “Cry” singer allegedly earned less than a quarter of that amount. Their divorce was finalized in June 2016.

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September 2017

The This Is Us star moved on with Goldsmith, whom she began dating in July 2015. The pair got engaged in September 2017 and tied the knot in November 2018. “I’m with my person,” she told Us days before the ceremony. “I’m with the right person.”

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September 2017

Two weeks after news of her engagement to the Dawes frontman broke, Adams showed his support for his ex-wife. “How’s everyone doing?? You with us? #ThisIsUs,” Moore tweeted during the season 2 premiere of her hit NBC series. “Always!” the “Come Pick Me Up” singer replied. “Rooting for you. #thisisus.”

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October 2018

The Princess Diaries actress spoke out about her failed marriage in a Glamour profile. “I didn’t choose the right person,” she admitted, saying she felt “spiritually and fundamentally stuck” in her relationship. “I don’t feel guilty for [the divorce]. I don’t fault myself for it. When people said, ‘I’m sorry,’ I was like, ‘No. Sorry would have been had I stayed in a very unhealthy situation.’ I didn’t. I found my way out. And when I did, things opened back up again.”

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October 2018

Adams hit back at his ex-wife on Twitter, writing: “She didn’t like the Melvins or BladeRunner. Doomed from the start … If only I could remember the start lol.”

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November 2018

Moore opened up about her relationship further in an interview with Bustle. “When I think back to that particular time period that we’re talking about … It was heavy. It was dark. It was confusing. It was lonely,” she said. “There was no room for me. There was no room for me to have anything else in my life.” She noted that she “exhausted every effort before [she] was like, ‘OK, well, that has to be addressed.’” The “I Wanna Be With You” singer added that she “allowed other people to make [her] feel bad” about her music: “We make ourselves feel so small to make other people comfortable. I think I did that for so long because I was scared of ruffling feathers. I just didn’t want to cause trouble. I felt like somebody else was more important. Somebody else’s choices or time, or whatever, should come before me.”

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February 2019

The Because I Said So star accused Adams of psychological abuse in a New York Times exposé, which also featured allegations from six other women. “Music was a point of control for him,” she told the newspaper. “He would always tell me, ‘You’re not a real musician because you don’t play an instrument.’ … His controlling behavior essentially did block my ability to make new connections in the industry during a very pivotal and potentially lucrative time — my entire mid-to-late 20s.” He denied Moore’s allegations through his lawyer, calling them “completely inconsistent with his view of the relationship.”

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February 2019

“Speaking your truth can be painful and triggering but it’s always worth it,” the 47 Meters Down actress wrote via Instagram after the Times article was published. “My heart is with all women who have suffered any sort of trauma or abuse. You are seen and heard. #sisterhoodforever.” She later shared a message via her Instagram Story which read: “Love does not gaslight, love does not prey on insecurities, love does not manipulate, love does not cause chaos in its wake, love does not isolate, love does not threaten, love does not intimidate, love does not make you doubt your intuition, love does not silence women. Show yourself an act of self LOVE by knowing your worth and walking away from any of the above scenarios.”

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February 2019

“I just don’t want this thing to be about him,” Moore told The New York Times in an interview published on February 29, 2020, referring to the article and her future. “He’s taken so much for so long from so many people. I can promise you he gets satisfaction being talked about in any capacity. I just know that about him.” She then admitted that she is no longer in contact with her ex-husband. “I haven’t spoken to him in, I don’t know, two years or something, but just knowing him as well as I know him, he really gets off on being talked about,” she told the outlet.

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June 2020

Adams publicly apologized for his past behavior in June 2020, more than one year after Moore and six other women spoke out against him. He told the Daily Mail, “There are no words to express how bad I feel about the ways I’ve mistreated people throughout my life and career. All I can say is that I’m sorry. It’s that simple.” The next day, Moore said on the Today show that she finds it “curious that someone would make a public apology but not do it privately.”