Paris Hilton Was Hurt by Pink’s ‘Stupid Girls’ Music Video Parodying Her Sex Tape: Revelations From ‘Paris: The Memoir’

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Paris Hilton Was Hurt by Pink's 'Stupid Girls' Music Video Parodying Her Sex Tape: Revelations From 'Paris: The Memoir'

Baring it all. Paris Hilton didn't hold back in her new book, discussing everything from her time in a restrictive boarding school to her decision to have an abortion in her early 20s. In Paris: The Memoir — which hit shelves on Tuesday, March 14 — the 42-year-old DJ also opened up about the sex tape that helped make her famous in the early 2000s. The tape, filmed with her ex Rick Salomon, leaked in late 2003 and was shared without her consent. "The world thinks of me as a sex symbol, and I'm here for that, because 'symbol' literally means 'icon,'" she wrote. "But when people saw that sex tape, they didn't say 'icon,' they said 'slut.' They said 'whore.' And they weren't shy about it." Pink later parodied the sex tape in her 2006 "Stupid Girls" music video, which also poked fun at Jessica Simpson's performance in The Dukes of Hazzard. Hilton said she doesn't hold a grudge the Grammy winner, 43, but she was hurt at the time by the clip. [jwplayer 9DsZ0T29-zhNYySv2] "The whole video is a not-at-all-subtle send-up of 'porno paparazzi girls' in general and, specifically, me, in a parody of my infamous sex tape," the Paris in Love alum wrote, noting that the tape was "released and monetized against" her will. "Pink sang about 'outcasts and girls with ambition' and said, 'That's what I wanna see.' But she chose not to see it in me." Hilton went on to clarify that she's not "mad" at Pink now, praising her as "brilliant" and a "great" mother. "There's no Pink-Paris feud," the "Stars Are Blind" singer continued. "That's not a thing. I have the attention span of a gnat, which means I suck at holding grudges. Anyway, anger doesn't help; honesty does. So, I'm being honest right now." The "Trouble" singer recently made headlines for claiming that it wasn't "fun to make" the 2001 "Lady Marmalade" music video with Christina Aguilera. “Not everybody is supposed to like each other and that’s OK,” Pink told CNN's Chris Wallace in February. “And back then, our personalities did not mix at all and that was OK. Then we hugged it out, kissed it out and we have many times since.” After being asked about the purported feud several times, Pink said she was "saddened and disappointed by the narrative" about her relationship with Aguilera, 42. “While some of the responsibility lays with me and my inability to lie, and my uncanny ability to overshare — my real disappointment lies in the fact that the art can never be the focus when you’re a woman," she wrote via Instagram last month before adding a message for Aguilera. “To Christina — you know where we stand. Resolved. Onwards and upwards." Keep scrolling for more revelations from Paris: The Memoir:

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She Stole Her Catchphrase From Nicky Hilton

The Simple Life alum revealed that her signature catchphrase — "that's hot" — was actually stolen from her younger sister, 39. "At some point, I heard Nicky say, 'That's hot,' and it resonated with me," Paris wrote. "I wrote it in my diary and doodled flowers and fireworks around it. It's such a great statement, isn't it? Positive. Unpretentious."

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Boarding School Terror

Paris claimed that her parents ignored her when she asked them to leave the CEDU boarding school in Utah where she was allegedly sexually abused. "'Paris, honey, I know it's hard,'" she recalled her mother, Kathy Hilton, telling her. "'You just have to hang in there and work the program.' Work the program? It was scary to hear CEDU-speak come out of my mother's mouth. I'd been operating on the assumption that my parents had no idea what was happening here. Now I didn't know what to think."

In 2021, Paris testified about the alleged abuse in front of the U.S. Senate, saying that her treatment at the school was so “traumatizing” that she suffered from nightmares and insomnia for years. “Talking about something so personal was and is still terrifying,” she told the committee at the time. “But I can not go to sleep at night knowing that there are children that are experiencing the same abuse that I and so many others went through, and neither should you.”

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Bethenny Frankel Was Her Nanny

Paris revealed that the Real Housewives of New York City alum, 52, was her nanny in the early 1990s — and got the job because she was friends with Paris' aunt Kyle Richards. "I think they were both around 19 or 20," Paris recalled, adding that Frankel would pick her and Nicky up at school and take them to the mall. "Sometimes we'd meet up with Kyle and go ice skating or get candy from the Mobile Mart."

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A 'Suffocating' Sexual Assault

The Cooking With Paris star revealed that she was raped at age 15 by an older guy who allegedly drugged her with a wine cooler. "After that, I don't remember much. Broken pieces," she wrote. "I became aware of a crushing weight on me. Suffocating me. Cracking my ribs. ... He clamped down on my face and whispered: 'It's a dream. It's a dream. You're dreaming.'"

Before the assault, Paris planned to abstain from sex until marriage, but she decided to have sex with her high school boyfriend in order to reclaim her narrative. "Going forward, it made a much better 'How I Lost My Virginity' story," she said. "Once upon a time. With a cute boy who loved me."

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Paris Was 'Devastated' by the Sex Tape

Paris slammed rumors that she was somehow involved with the release of her sex tape. "The release of that private footage devastated me, personally and professionally," she wrote. "It followed me into every audition and business meeting for years. Even now, in a corporate world dominated by men, I look around a conference table knowing that most of the people sitting there have seen me naked in the most degrading way imaginable. ... It's out there waiting for my children, who will be confronted with it someday."

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Her Decision to Have an Abortion

In her early 20s, Paris discovered she was pregnant with then-boyfriend Jason Shaw's child, and she decided to have an abortion. "When I realized I was pregnant, it was like waking up on the ledge outside a 40th-floor window," she recalled. "I was terrified and heartsick. ... The only reason I'm talking about it now is that so many women are facing it, and they feel so alone and judged and abandoned. I want them to know that they're not alone, and they don't owe anyone an explanation."

Looking back, Paris said she still feels she made "the right choice," in part because "there was no happy little family at stake." She continued: "At that moment in my life, I was in no way capable of being a mother. Denying that would have jeopardized the family I hoped to have in the future, at a time when I was healthy and healed."

In January, the New York City native and husband Carter Reum welcomed son Phoenix via surrogate.

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How Demi Lovato Inspired Her

Paris revealed that the "Cool for the Summer" songstress, 30, inspired her to open up about her past traumatic experiences after her 2017 documentary, Demi Lovato: Simply Complicated. "Seeing [courage] in her sparked courage in me," Paris wrote. "Instead of worry about what it would mean to my brand, I started thinking about what it would do to the troubled-teen industry if I stepped out of the shadows and told my truth."

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An Encounter With Harvey Weinstein

The Confessions of an Heiress author claimed that Weinstein, 70, followed her into a bathroom after a 2000 meeting in France. "I told no one, because that's what you did back then," she said. As for why she didn't mention the alleged incident when claims against Weinstein made headlines in 2017, Paris said she "embarrassed" by the story. "I was afraid that if I shared that story, the next question would be, 'Why didn't you speak up at the time?' and I had no answer for that," she wrote. "I admire the courageous women who stepped up and called him out, but every woman who went through something with him — and others like him — has the right to process it in the way that works for her."  

If you or anyone you know has been sexually abused, call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673). A trained staff member will provide confidential, judgment-free support as well as local resources to assist in healing, recovering and more.