Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott’s Most Candid Sex Confessions

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Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott’s Most Candid Sex Confessions

What happens in the bedroom doesn’t always stay in the bedroom for Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott. Spelling and McDermott met on the set of the made-for-TV movie Mind Over Murder in 2005. The Beverly Hills, 90210 alum had been married to her first husband, Charlie Shanian, for less than a year at the time. McDermott, meanwhile, had been married to Mary Jo Eustace, with whom he shares son Jack, for more than a decade. “It was love at first sight. I fell so hard … Then I noticed he had a wedding ring,” Spelling admitted in her 2008 memoir, sTORI Telling. “And — oh, yeah — I had a husband too. It was fun to flirt, but I knew nothing would happen … But: Dean and I went to a bar after dinner. And we spent the night at the Cartier Place. The following day when I woke up next to Dean, I had no regrets. Something was really wrong with my marriage. Not only because I slept with this guy — though that certainly wasn’t a positive sign — but because I didn’t regret it.” Less than a year after their initial meeting, Spelling and McDermott secretly wed in Fiji. They have since welcomed five kids: Liam, Stella, Hattie, Finn and Beau. Their path hasn’t been entirely smooth, however. In December 2013, Us Weekly broke the news that McDermott cheated on Spelling with a woman named Emily Goodhand while working on Chopped Canada. “He told me he and Tori had a sexless marriage," Goodhand told Us at the time. "I believed him.” [jwplayer sFHerjO7-l3ahXupL] After documenting their therapy sessions on Lifetime’s True Tori for two seasons, McDermott re-proposed to Spelling in 2016. The twosome have since declared that they are stronger than ever. “We don’t have relationship problems,” the actress told Us in February 2019. “We communicate now, I have a voice. He probably hears too much of it but he [is so] good at listening. Women like to talk and over-explain.” McDermott has also been vocal about their romance since launching his podcast, “Daddy Issues.” While he often spills NSFW secrets on their relationship, he claims Spelling is fine with it. “She’s my biggest supporter and as racy as some of the shows have been, she still supports me 150 percent. God bless her,” McDermott told Us in October 2019. “I mean, if you’re not real, then you know you’re faking it. And people are going to see that and our relationship is for real. Our kids are for real, our life is for real. We just put it out there.” Scroll through — if you dare — for Spelling and McDermott’s most candid confessions: [podcast_block]

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On Their Sex Life Pre-Cheating Scandal

The Mystery Girls star got visibly emotional while discussing their sex life on True Tori. “He was wanting more sex from me. He wanted more adventurous stuff. I was doing everything he wanted … That’s why, when this happened, it was such a slap in my face,” Spelling said during a therapy session about McDermott's affair.

During the session she also told McDermott that she felt like she could “never give” him “enough sex.”

“Our sex life was never enough,” she said. “It was never enough for you! I wore that guilt all the time thinking he’s going to cheat on me.”

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On Sex Toys

“I am a Fleshlight owner,” McDermott admitted on a September 2019 episode of his“ Daddy Issues” podcast. “People, I still think have this negative connotation toward it. Hey, look, if this is going to make someone happy, and they are not going to take their weird sexual s—t out on someone, then that is why I am a fan of the dolls. If you can afford one, go get one. Suppressing your sexuality breathes weirdness.”

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On Getting Caught in the Act

“When T and I first got together, I had Jack every other weekend,” McDermott said on a June 2019 podcast, referring to his eldest son. “He couldn’t sleep one night and — we were making a lot of noise — and … I just happened to be looking that way toward the door. I saw the doorknob turn. I didn’t hear it, I saw it turn, and I was like, ‘Oh, s–t,’ and then a crack of light. I jumped off and sat on the edge of the bed. He said, ‘Dad is everything OK?’ and I said, ‘Yeah, I just got a migraine.’”

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On Donna Martin Role Play

“She’s dressed up as Donna Martin. And it was f–king awesome,” McDermott said in August 2019 about his wife's iconic 90210 character. “You know the story, I had a crush on Tori on the show, and so to see the flashbacks, I put it in the spank bank.”

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On His NSFW Tattoo

McDermott revealed in August 2019 that he has Spelling’s name tattooed above his manhood: “It says, ‘Tori’s.’ I just thought it would be really cool.”

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On Vajazzling

“You can have, like, designs, little shiny jewels and stuff put on,” McDermott explained on a June 2019 podcast with Spelling, noting she has opted for a heart design in the past. “It was the sexiest thing ever. It was so fantastic.”

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On Their Daily Sex Drive

McDermott said the couple has sex “every day” during a June 2019 podcast episode. “It never stops.”

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On the Dirty Details

“I’m not a top, I am an aggressive bottom and I am very competitive,” Spelling said on “Daddy Issues” in June 2019.

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On Porn

"If my d—k was big enough I’d be a pornstar I think. I definitely would want to go into porn. But it’s just not,” McDermott said on “Daddy Issues” in January 2020.

The duo also joked about watching “Real Housewives parody porn” on a June 2019 episode. “We could do my love for reality TV and porn and blend the two, so we’re on the same page, always,” Spelling said. “Mixing interests, keeping the passion alive!”

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On Lubricant

The couple spices things up with CBD lubricant. In an August 2019 episode of McDermott’s podcast “Daddy Issues,” he encouraged guest Denise Richards to try it out. “The one we used doesn’t have THC in it,” McDermott said. “It’s just like a CBD kind of thing.”