Everything Vanderpump Rules’ Tom Schwartz and Katie Maloney Have Said About Moving On Following Their Split

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Everything Vanderpump Rules’ Tom Schwartz and Katie Maloney Have Said About Moving On Following Their Split

A new normal. Vanderpump Rules stars Tom Schwartz and Katie Maloney haven't held back when it comes to discussing their futures following their split. In March 2022, the reality stars shocked their followers when they announced their breakup via social media. “Well this sucks," the TomTom co-owner wrote via Instagram. "I’m not the victim. Not gonna write too sad a song. Fully respect Katie’s decision and we’ve had healthy, productive conversations about it. It would be far sadder if she decided to stay with me whilst not happy.” In his lengthy statement, Schwartz noted that his “heart aches” with the change happening around him. "How am I supposed to capture 12 years of love in a f--king canned Instagram caption. I'm not quite ready to use the 'D' word [because] it's too painful," he continued. "We had some of the most blissful, romantic, fun times humanly possible over the course of our relationship. I'm talking heaven on earth level joy. She taught me so much about love & being a better partner." Maloney, for her part, later got honest what made her decide to pull the plug on their marriage. "The best and only way I can describe it is just waking up and having this voice that just became louder and louder. [Also] just events in my life and in our relationship coming into focus and feeling the weight of them on me," she shared during an emotional episode of her "You're Gonna Love Me" podcast that same month. [jwplayer VhdMlnUv-zhNYySv2] The former SUR waitress officially filed for divorce days after the pair's split made headlines, and she went on to reveal why she chose to first. "I realized that I had to really start prioritizing myself and my happiness as well. It just needed to happen. That's just what everything inside of me was saying, I thought it got to a point where I just felt like I was going to burst," she explained on her podcast. "For months, it was building up. I felt just disconnected. I felt like I was drifting further and further away." Maloney's decision to focus on her own future became more clear after costar Raquel Leviss ended her engagement to James Kennedy. "When they announced at the reunion that they had broken it up — it was a bit empowering because when you're trying to figure out what to do and you see other people be strong and their convictions like that, you're like, 'All right, I can do it, I can do it,'" the Utah native exclusively told Us Weekly in April 2022. Scroll down for everything Maloney and Schwartz have said about moving on amid their divorce: [podcast_block]

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Not So Fast

While reflecting on the pair's transition out of married life, Maloney opened up about her "peaceful" and "loving" living situation with Schwartz.

"It's been the best case scenario I could possibly imagine or hope for. We're still figuring out the next steps, I don't think we're going to live together forever," she shared on an episode of "You're Gonna Love Me" in March 2022. "This past month has just been us having a lot of discussions and processing all the emotions along the way."

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Not Quite Ready to Let Go

In April 2022, the restaurant owner addressed his decision to keep wearing his wedding ring.

“This is not me clinging on and being needy,” he said during the Spilling Tea Live with Zack Peter and Adam Newell show, according to Page Six. “There was such a profound love there and I feel naked without it. I’m not clinging on. I am not.”

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Staying Close

Amid their divorce, Maloney got candid about the next chapter of her life while still living with Schwartz. 

"We're kind of in the process of figuring out our next moves of where we're gonna live and what that's gonna be like," the podcast host told Us in April 2022. "So, we've kind of been sharing listings — apartment listings or condo listings — with each other. We wanna stay in the same area because we both have the dogs and we're gonna, like, split custody of that. It's important to be near each other for that regard."

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Looking at Her Future

In April 2022, Maloney revealed that she was "very open" to the possibility of entering the dating scene again. 

"The dating apps really scare me, so I don't know if that will happen or definitely not anytime soon," she told Us at the time. “But, I mean, let's say if I was, like, out and there was, like, some little kissing sort of situation, I wouldn't turn it down. I'm open because I think it could be maybe potentially healthy or maybe good for the ego."

The Bravo personality added: "I'm not trying to get a boyfriend or a relationship anytime soon, but I don't see any problem in going on a date or just, you know, flirting with someone."

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Supporting Him

During an appearance on the “We Met At Acme” podcast, Maloney noted that she wasn't too concerned about seeing her estranged husband dating someone new.

“It would be, like, weird, but I don't think I’d go crazy. I don't think I would feel hurt. I don't think I would feel betrayed,” she explained in April 2022. “I think as long as she wasn't a psycho or, like, as long as she was a good person that was going to be nice … I mean, I can't say that I would be upset.”

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Navigating Things

“Tom and I have been really supportive,” Maloney exclusively told Us while attending the grand opening part of Lisa Vanderpump's new Vanderpump à Paris restraint in Las Vegas. “And it's been, you know, the best, healthiest, [most] positive thing that I can ask for, honestly.”

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A Sense of Relief

During a May 2022 episode of the "Bachelorette Happy Hour" podcast, Maloney explained that ending her marriage to Schwartz was something she needed to be happy.

“The minute I made that choice, the thing I was scared of the most became like a gift — became an opportunity for opportunity and I was no longer scared of it,” the reality star said at the time.

She added that while the breakup “gutted me,” it was more about “leaning in and trusting your gut and listening to that because it’s about the relationship with yourself and nurturing that.”

When it came to the topic of dating, the former SUR waitress said she isn’t looking for a boyfriend, but she is open to having fun.

“I like going out, flirting. Like, I’ve been on a date,” she shared.

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Different Points of View

"Hell no! [Dating] sounds awful to me," Schwartz exclusively told Us in July 2022 about finding someone new. "I've been thinking about this a lot, by the way. The prospect of dating sounds daunting to me and I am dreading going on my first date. I refuse to do it."

Maloney, for her part, revealed she was excited to meet new people and make connections. "[I would like to] have fun and get out there and flirt and maybe kiss some boys," she told Us. A lot of [guys] are really young and that's kind of fun too. I’m kind of in a cougar era. Being 36, I can date the young one and the young one's dad. So I kind of love that for me."

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Different Approaches

While discussing their split on Vanderpump Rules, Maloney and Schwartz offered an update on their respective love lives.

"I have no desire to date or be with another human being," the Schwartz and Sandy's owner admitted. The Utah native, for her part, revealed, "I have made out with, like, three people and then done the full deed with two. I am not out there whoring it up."

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Dressed for Revenge

In a March 2023 episode of Vanderpump Rules, Katie had a unique response to Tom potentially growing closer to Raquel.

"I told him if we want to maintain this we have to check in and communicate with each other about what we are comfortable with," she said. "Otherwise, if you want to start f—king this person then I will run train through your restaurants."

Katie continued: "Running train means having sex with everyone in a place. Consider them all banged."

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Setting Boundaries

"I've been very careful to not dip into the friend group when it comes to hooking up or flirting — and especially not right in front of Tom's face," the former SUR waitress explained in a March 2023 confessional. "Because I'm not an a--hole. That's why."  

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What She's Looking for in a Man

"I would want someone that would really adore me and support me. Someone who is going to value my opinions and my mind. Just someone who is a true teammate to me," Katie explained to Lala in a March 2023 episode. "I miss a lot of things [from my time with Tom]."

She added: "He was my best friend, but I couldn't just stay with someone who was my best friend when I needed something more. It isn't easy and that is why I tell people to just be supportive and not get involved."

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Getting Back Out There

"I feel like I need to be Lala's sex coach because I know how fun single sex can be," Maloney shared in a March 2023 episode of Vanderpump Rules.

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New Man in Her Life

“Satchel [Clendenin] is a very sweet guy that I met one night out with my girlfriends,” Katie gushed during an episode of Vanderpump Rules in April 2023. “I was like, ‘Oh here’s this young guy, this will be fun.’ I didn’t really anticipate to keep hanging out with him. I came for the D and I stayed for the conversation.”

She added: “He’s very sweet and shows me affection, and it’s just a nice change. And let’s just say I won’t be complaining to anyone about how his d—k doesn’t work.”

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Meeting Katie's Man

"Maybe it is masochistic but I ran through a list of some hypothetical men I could see Katie dating and Satchel wasn't one of them," Tom said in an April 2023 episode. "I think I handled it really well but I had a little moment where I see him waking up with Katie and [our dogs] Gordo and Butter are snuggling in there with them. It just breaks my heart. Have all the sex you want but don't bring the dogs in the bed."