Everything Katie Maloney and Tom Schwartz Have Said About Their Split, the Aftermath on ‘Vanderpump Rules’

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Everything Katie Maloney and Tom Schwartz Have Said About Their Split, the Aftermath on 'Vanderpump Rules'

A clean break? Katie Maloney and Tom Schwartz's divorce was front and center as the couple filmed season 10 of Vanderpump Rules. During the premiere, Katie and Tom addressed their breakup for the first time on camera. "She laid it all out and it made perfect sense. I can't probably give you the specifics because I was so upset I wasn't really listening," the Minnesota native said in a confessional. "But also, I don't want to ask her again because one of the reasons she broke up with me is because I am not a good listener. Long story short, I just didn't know how to make her happy." Katie, however, noted that her ex-husband's inability to make her a "priority" contributed to her decision. Before filming started on season 10, Tom and Katie confirmed they called it quits after more than a decade together. “Well this sucks," the businessman wrote via Instagram in March 2022. "I’m not the victim. Not gonna write too sad a song. Fully respect Katie’s decision and we’ve had healthy, productive conversations about it. It would be far sadder if she decided to stay with me whilst not happy.” He continued: "How am I supposed to capture 12 years of love in a f—king canned Instagram caption. I'm not quite ready to use the 'D' word [because] it's too painful. We had some of the most blissful, romantic, fun times humanly possible over the course of our relationship. I'm talking heaven on earth level joy. She taught me so much about love & being a better partner." [jwplayer rEQG5X5p-zhNYySv2] Us Weekly later confirmed that things in their amicable split took a turn when Tom got cozy with costar Raquel Leviss following her split from James Kennedy. In August 2022, a source exclusively revealed that Tom and Raquel "made out" while attending Scheana Shay and Brock Davies’ wedding. The California native hinted at a divide between her and the "You're Gonna Love Me" podcast host, telling Us in October 2022, "I can't speak for her, but I'm just keeping my distance and letting her work out her feelings." Raquel, who announced on Vanderpump Rules that she called off her engagement to James in January 2022, praised her new connection with Tom. "Right now, we're good friends. I feel like [our breakups] kind of brought us together as friends and we've been able to support each other," she added. "I wasn't expecting that friendship to blossom, but I'm happy that it did." The TomTom cofounder also weighed in on the feud between Katie and Raquel. "I stay out of it. I care for Raquel a lot and Katie’s my girl. I love her. We spent more than a quarter of my life together, so I have a lot of respect and love for her. But she can be very reactive and I haven’t had a lot of time to process that yet," Tom shared with Us one month later. Scroll down for everything Tom and Katie have said about calling it quits on Vanderpump Rules:

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Breaking Their Silence

During the season 10 premiere, Katie opened up about her decision to pull the plug. "So after 12 years together and five years of marriage, I went to Tom last winter and asked him for a divorce," she told the cameras in a February 2023 episode. "We've had a lot of issues. I have never been a priority to him."

Tom, for his part, recalled his emotional response to the breakup, saying, "I felt like my whole world — everything I know — just dissipated in that moment."

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The Ground Rules

The Utah native discussed the post-split boundaries created by her and Tom, adding, "I realize that I am not the only one going through a heartbreak. I really value my friendship with Tom and I want to remain friends. But there's just one rule — don't hook up with anyone in the friend group."

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On Good Terms

"I try to prioritize our friendship and I still got a lot of love for him. It's working out pretty good so far," Katie told Lala Kent and Ariana Madix while filming a February 2023 episode of the hit Bravo series.

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Putting Their Friendship 1st

Before Tom addressed a rift between him and Lala over her ex-fiancée, Randall Emmett, the restaurant owner explained why he was concerned about the status of his and Katie's connection. "I just don't want to do anything that would comprise mine and Katie's friendship. We have had such a healthy divorce," he told Tom Sandoval in February 2023 about the reason why he wanted to work things out with the beauty mogul.

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An Honest Conversation

During an episode of Vanderpump Rules season 10, which aired in February 2023, Katie and Tom addressed what led to the end of their marriage.

"I'm trying to be excited for Tom, but this bar has a very complicated history," the Utah native said in a confessional. "It put a massive strain on our relationship. It just was a lot more of a presence in my life than I thought it would be, without me having say over it."

She continued: "All of the marital issues and arguments and everything we were having has now just been personified. This bar was the other woman in our marriage, and I'm standing inside of her now."

Tom, for his part, admitted he let himself "get sucked in" while working on his business venture. In response, Katie replied, "It nearly broke you, and it nearly broke me. It broke us kinda, so was it worth it?"

For the Minnesota native, it was hard to accept that Schwartz and Sandy's contributed so many issues to his personal life. "Jesus, I don't know how to answer that. I just don't want you to ever think that I chose this place over you because I didn't," he added.

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A 3rd Party

In February 2023, Katie slammed Scheana Shay for getting in the way of her post-split relationship with Schwartz.

"I went to Tom's today to take the dogs over, and right before that, he did Scheana's podcast. And he's like, 'She's been really nudging and pushing me to date Raquel,'" Katie detailed during a dinner with Raquel and Lala Kent. "It's a total act of betrayal. She was my bridesmaid at my wedding. And when Scheana went through her divorce, I supported her. How would she have felt if I was trying to hook up Shay with one of my girlfriends? She would have been livid."

The OG SUR waitresses later got into an argument after Katie called out Scheana. "A friend wouldn't do this. A friend wouldn't bring him on the podcast when he is vulnerable like this to try to coerce him into saying something," the Utah native said about her former friend's behavior. "She wants to be supportive? Be supportive over there. She's an evil, evil little troll."

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The New Dynamic

"For the last 12 years of our relationship, Tom and I have been a package deal within this group," Katie shared with the cameras in a March 2023 episode. "But I'm worried that because of this divorce, people are really going to start drawing lines and choosing sides and they are going to choose Schwartz."

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Breaking Down

"I don't wear my pain or grief or sadness on my face but what I am going through is f—king really hard," Katie told cameras in March 2023. "I don't think Raquel's fully got it. Tom's not just some dude I dated, he was our family. If she's got to hear it from my mom than she's got to hear it from my mom."

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Ups and Downs

"I want him to be my best friend, but we have to work out some f—king kinks apparently," Katie explained in a March 2023 episode, referring to her now-ex-husband's connection with Raquel.

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Another Issue

In a March 2023 episode, Schwartz and Katie were at odds after he sided with Scheana during a fight.

"Katie's stubbornness is one of my least favorite qualities about her. Once she has made up her mind there is no turning back. Even if that means hurting the people around her," he explained before calling Katie "emotionally entitled" in front of their friends. "This is objectively out of line. You are in the wrong. There is no gray area."

The former SUR waitress got emotional when Schwartz refused to see her point of view, saying, "Schwartz taking everyone else's side over me was a big reason why I asked for a divorce. And I thought now that having the pressure to defend his wife is gone he could treat me like everyone else. No. I guess it is not a wife thing — it is a Katie thing."